Not So Chic

I have spent an embarrassing amount of my life trying to become the kind of woman who walks into a room and commands attention. Meanwhile, I’m 23 years old, still occasionally forget how to operate my limbs in public, and somehow had more confidence at 13 with a mouth full of braces. Explain that one.

This week, we're talking confidence. Not the kind that requires perfect hair, a fabulous body, or the approval of every man within a five-mile radius. The kind that comes from actually liking yourself, even when nobody else is around to validate it.

We're discussing why 13-year-old me was absolutely convinced she was the cat's meow at her barn mitzvah, how to stop treating other people's opinions like performance reviews, and why putting on a sexy thong and dancing to Beyoncé alone in your kitchen might be a legitimate form of personal development.

Plus, an Uber driver with questionable intentions, the art of being particular without being an asshole, and some big-sister advice on finding a therapist when you don't know where to start.

Confidence may be an inside job, but fabulous underwear certainly helps.

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I have spent an embarrassing amount of my life trying to become the kind of woman who walks into a room and commands attention. Meanwhile, I’m 23 years old, still occasionally forget how to operate my limbs in public, and somehow had more confidence at 13 with a mouth full of braces. Explain that one.

This week, we're talking confidence. Not the kind that requires perfect hair, a fabulous body, or the approval of every man within a five-mile radius. The kind that comes from actually liking yourself, even when nobody else is around to validate it.

We're discussing why 13-year-old me was absolutely convinced she was the cat's meow at her barn mitzvah, how to stop treating other people's opinions like performance reviews, and why putting on a sexy thong and dancing to Beyoncé alone in your kitchen might be a legitimate form of personal development.

Plus, an Uber driver with questionable intentions, the art of being particular without being an asshole, and some big-sister advice on finding a therapist when you don't know where to start.

Confidence may be an inside job, but fabulous underwear certainly helps.
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Have you ever seen an Instagram Story of people hanging out without you and suddenly decided you have no friends, everyone secretly hates you, and you should probably move to a new city? Same!

This week, we’re talking about being left out: the group chats you’re not in, the dinners you weren’t invited to, and the deeply humbling experience of zooming into the reflection of a martini glass to figure out who else was there. I’m also telling the story of the time my friends made an entirely new version of our group chat without me—and I was so delusional I searched my phone because I thought I had accidentally muted it. Spoiler: I had not.

We’re getting into why being left out hurts so fucking badly, the difference between actually being excluded and your friends simply having lives that unfortunately do not revolve around you, and why sometimes you don’t even want to go—you just want the ceremonial invitation. LET ME reject YOU.

Plus, in Guest Therapy: Hinge pen pals, men who will happily plan your hypothetical wedding but cannot plan drinks for Thursday, and why 72 hours of nonstop texting does not, in fact, make him your future husband.

If you’ve ever conducted a psychological autopsy over an Instagram Story, this one’s for you.

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I've spent approximately 23 years being my own biggest hater, and I fear it's time for a rebrand.

This week, we're talking about self-compassion, otherwise known as treating yourself with the same kindness you extend to literally everyone else. From accidentally dropping my baby cousin at nine years old to waking up half-naked with McDonald's chicken nuggets in my cleavage, we're unpacking the difference between holding yourself accountable and putting yourself on trial for every mistake you've ever made.

I'm also reading a letter I wrote to myself at 19 during one of the hardest periods of my life, revisiting the little girl who desperately wanted to fit in, and discussing why you don't have to hate yourself into becoming a better person.

Because you can regret your decisions without regretting who you are. And frankly, life is hard enough without living with a bully who knows all your insecurities.

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Apparently, you don't need a boyfriend to go through a breakup. Who knew?

This week, we're discussing the seven stages of heartbreak, the particular psychological warfare of ending a situationship, and the deeply humbling experience of grieving a future that existed entirely in your head. From convincing yourself that an Instagram story view means he's coming back to drafting your seventeenth final text, we're getting into all of it.

I'm sharing what I've learned about choosing yourself when it's the last thing you want to do, why closure might be a scam, and how to move forward when you're not quite ready to move on.

Because sometimes the hardest person to get over is the one you never actually dated.

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