Deep Within with Marina Triner, The Compassionate Somatic Coach

I was so excited for this one, and Nicole did not disappoint. Dr. Nicole LePera, the Holistic Psychologist, trained at Cornell University and the New School for Social Research, is the founder of SelfHealers Circle and the author of three books including the number one New York Times bestseller How to Do the Work. In this conversation, Nicole and I go deep into covert narcissism, how growing up with emotional unavailability shapes every relationship that follows, what re-parenting actually looks like in the body, and why healing is never a straight line from A to B. I had so many personal realisations listening back to this one, about my own relational blueprint, my expectations, and how narcissism in my family has quietly shaped how I show up with others. 

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theholisticpsychologist.com
www.instagram.com/the.holistic.psychologist

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Attatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinayt.com/attachment-practice 

Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinayt.com/connect-and-ground

Alive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinayt.com/alive-and-aligned

Trigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rooted 

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Top Episode Quotes:
"We all become self-focused when we feel threatened — that's survival. But when someone is consistently unable to hold anyone else's perspective, that's a different pattern entirely." — Dr. Nicole LePera
"I was a million miles away, demanding someone feel close to me — while every instinct in my body was pushing them away. That was the contradiction I had to face." — Dr. Nicole LePera
"Re-parenting begins in the body. Teaching your nervous system how to come back to safety — that's the foundation everything else is built on." — Dr. Nicole LePera
"The familiar thing that's causing harm still feels safer than the unknown thing that might heal you. That's just how a nervous system works." — Dr. Nicole LePera
"You don't have to get rid of your past entirely. The goal is to give yourself a choice — to bring forward what still serves you and break free from what's overtaking your present." — Dr. Nicole LePera

inner child healing, reparenting, covert narcissism, nervous system healing, somatic healing, childhood emotional neglect, attachment wounds, relational patterns, hypervigilance, emotional attunement, people pleasing, family estrangement, self healing, trauma recovery, embodiment, deep within podcast, Nicole LePera, holistic psychologist, Marina Triner, How to Do the Work

This one opened my heart wide open, and I cried with a friend straight after recording it. Chelsea Horton is a somatic coach, educator, and founder of Healing Embodied, where she trains wellness professionals to integrate somatics, creativity, and emotional healing into their work. A former worship leader with a master's in Dance and Movement Therapy, Chelsea went from the most devoted Christian you'd ever meet, engaged to her gay best friend for Jesus, to building a life and practice rooted entirely in embodied truth. Together we explore religious trauma, good girl programming, what embodiment actually means in daily life, and why your emotions are not a problem to solve but raw material for creation. 
Connect with Chelsea:
www.healingembodied.com/connect
https://www.instagram.com/healing.embodied

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Attatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinayt.com/attachment-practice 

Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinayt.com/connect-and-ground

Alive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinayt.com/alive-and-aligned

Trigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rooted 

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Top Episode Quotes:
"Embodiment is when you live, breathe, become the thing — instead of just knowing it conceptually. It's not a switch you turn on. Your body has to learn a new way of being." — Chelsea Horton
"Sometimes what's familiar sucks. Sometimes what's familiar is harming you. But because it feels predictable, it feels safe. That's not embodied safety — that's familiar safety." — Chelsea Horton
"The reason people end up in a psych hospital is because the one thing they didn't have enough of was being loved. That is our most fundamental human need." — Chelsea Horton
"Your emotions are not a problem to solve. They're an energy with which you can create. Suddenly you become a choreographer of life." — Chelsea Horton
"You're sitting on top of a treasure chest and you've never opened it. And what's inside? Your expression. Yourself. Your life. You finally get you back." — Chelsea Horton

religious trauma healing, embodiment, somatic healing, good girl programming, shame healing, nervous system regulation, inner child healing, creative expression, trauma informed healing, emotional processing, dance movement therapy, familiar safety, embodied safety, deconstruction, people pleasing, deep within podcast, Chelsea Horton, Marina Triner, healing embodied, somatic coaching

If you've ever wondered why you keep ending up in the same relationship with a different person, this episode is for you. I sit down with Sarah Baldwin — Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, member of the world-renowned Polyvagal Theory training team, and one of the most respected voices in trauma resolution working today — and together we go deep into parts work, attachment patterns, and why your nervous system is the one choosing your relationships until you do this work. Sarah shares her own extraordinary healing journey with breathtaking honesty, and this conversation genuinely felt like listening to a poem.

Connect with Sarah:
https://www.instagram.com/sarahbcoaching/
Free Workbook: https://programs.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/how-to-gain-control-over-how-you-feel-workbook
Navigating Your Nervous System Waitlist: https://programs.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/navigating-your-nervous-system-waitlist
https://www.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/

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Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinayt.com/stay-or-go-guide

Attatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinayt.com/attachment-practice 

Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinayt.com/connect-and-ground

Alive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinayt.com/alive-and-aligned

Trigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rooted 

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Top Episode Quotes:
"Until you do this work, you are all in arranged relationships. You think you're choosing. You're not. Your nervous system is choosing for you." — Sarah Baldwin
"Trauma healing is state dependent. You need the same flavouring of the dynamic you were wounded in — and nothing replicates that like a romantic relationship." — Sarah Baldwin
"When you're triggered, adult you flies out the window. For all intents and purposes, you're five years old — and it would be life or death for a five year old to be alone in the middle of a city." — Sarah Baldwin
"The truest love story ever written is the one you have with your parts. Falling in love with every single one of them — including the ones that were trying to drown your partner." — Sarah Baldwin
"What you feel in any given moment may not be the truth of that moment. It may be the truth of something that happened a very long time ago." — Sarah Baldwin

parts work, somatic experiencing, attachment healing, people pleasing, nervous system regulation, trauma healing, relational patterns, inner child healing, somatic healing, fear of abandonment, romantic relationships and trauma, polyvagal theory, codependency healing, emotional regulation, self trust, embodiment, protective parts, deep within podcast, Sarah Baldwin, somatic coaching

If you've ever felt completely out of control in a relationship — knowing it's wrong, unable to leave, ashamed of yourself for staying — this conversation is going to make you feel far less alone. Marina sits down with Andrea Ashley, host of Adult Child and The Shitshow podcast, who grew up in an alcoholic home, spent her teens in and out of rehabs, got sober at 19, and still found herself at rock bottom at 28 — trapped in trauma bonds she didn't yet have words for. Andrea shares the story she's never fully told before: the relationship that pulled her back in at her most under-resourced, the friendship betrayal that happened at the worst possible moment, and what it actually took to finally get out. This one is raw, real, and deeply human. 
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https://www.instagram.com/adultchildpod/
https://www.adultchildpodcast.com/

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Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinayt.com/stay-or-go-guide

Attatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinayt.com/attachment-practice 

Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinayt.com/connect-and-ground

Alive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinayt.com/alive-and-aligned

Trigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rooted 

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Top Episode Quotes:
"As soon as my fear of abandonment got triggered, I was done. That's how quickly and easily a trauma bond can form." — Andrea Ashley
"The fear of abandonment can make someone ten million times more attractive. It's not real feeling — you're just deepening your attachment." — Andrea Ashley
"I was so sane and yet so insane at the same time. I could witness exactly what was happening and I still could not stop." — Andrea Ashley
"Tending to an alcoholic is the oldest role I know. My nervous system was just reaching for what it knows, what was comfortable." — Andrea Ashley
"I have abandonment trauma. I might freak out the first time you take too long to text me back. And I'm not embarrassed about that anymore. If it's the right person, that's not going to push them away." — Andrea Ashley

trauma bond, love addiction, abandonment wound, complex PTSD, adult child of alcoholics, nervous system healing, somatic healing, anxious attachment, fear of abandonment, intermittent reinforcement, codependency healing, childhood trauma, trauma recovery, emotional flashbacks, attachment healing, inner child healing, deep within podcast, Andrea Ashley, Marina Triner, trauma informed healing

If you grew up being the good girl — performing, people pleasing, shrinking yourself to stay safe and loved — this conversation is going to crack something open. Marina sits down with Luci Lampe, trauma-informed sex and relationship coach, four-time author, and award-winning singer-songwriter whose work has been featured in Forbes, the Huffington Post, CBS and Fox. Luci went from pastor's daughter and evangelical good girl to one of the most embodied, unapologetic voices in erotic liberation and spiritual reclamation — and together we trace exactly how that unravelling happened, what shame actually feels like in the body, and what it takes to stop performing and start living from your whole self. 
Connect with Luci:
http://lucilampeofficial.com
www.instagram.com/lucilampe
https://luci-lampe.mykajabi.com/Secure

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Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinayt.com/stay-or-go-guide

Attatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinayt.com/attachment-practice 

Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinayt.com/connect-and-ground

Alive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinayt.com/alive-and-aligned

Trigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rooted 

VIEW MY COURSES & RESOURCES:
https://marinayt.com/resources 

CONNECT WITH  ME:
Follow me on Instagram:⁠ ⁠www.instagram.com/marina.y.t⁠⁠ 
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Top Episode Quotes:
"We do this to stay safe and to have connection and belonging. And then there just comes a point where something in life says — no more. This doesn't work anymore." — Luci Lampe
"You can't shame me if I don't shame myself. That is the power of removing the good girl mask." — Luci Lampe
"Shame loses its power when it's spoken. When you can name it out loud — to yourself, to someone else — it starts to loosen its grip." — Luci Lampe
"I was terrified that peace would equal death. Equal boredom. Until I realised peace is actually the foundation from which you can build the most full, vibrant life." — Luci Lampe
"The reorientation of your nervous system happens in consistent small choices. Before you know it, the thing you thought you needed loses its charge — and then it starts to feel unattractive." — Luci Lampe

good girl programming, shame healing, people pleasing, somatic healing, erotic liberation, spiritual awakening, nervous system regulation, trauma healing, relational patterns, self abandonment, inner child healing, embodiment, sexuality and trauma, religious trauma, feminine energy, emotional suppression, authentic self, deep within podcast, Luci Lampe, Marina Triner