Deep Within with Marina Triner, The Compassionate Somatic Coach

In this episode I sit down with Wendy Behary, one of the world's leading experts on narcissism with over 30 years of experience, founder of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey, and author of the international bestseller Disarming the Narcissist, selected by Oprah Daily as one of the top books on the subject and now in its third edition translated into 18 languages. Wendy cuts through the myths that flood the internet around narcissism, explains the real difference between narcissistic traits and narcissistic personality disorder, and shares what she has learned from three decades of sitting in the room with both narcissists and the people who love them. We talk about when to stay, when to leave, what healing actually looks like for a narcissist, how to build your healthy adult self, and how to regulate your nervous system when you are living in close proximity to someone deeply volatile.
This is one of the most clear, grounded, and genuinely rare conversations I have had on this topic,and I learned an enormous amount.
Connect with Wendy:
https://www.instagram.com/donsanddivas
https://disarmingthenarcissist.com/
https://www.schematherapytrainingonline.com/p/empathic-confrontation-wendy-behary
https://courses.schematherapytrainingonline.com/p/empathic-confrontation-wendy-behary

WORK WITH ME 1:1:
❥Softening into self- 3 month 1:1 with Whats App Support: https://marina-yt.mykajabi.com/offers/PAWQhZHu
❥❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewform
DOWNLOAD FOR FREE:
Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinatriner.com/stay-or-go-guide

Attatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinatriner.com/attachment-practice 

Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinatriner.com/connect-and-ground

Alive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinatriner.com/alive-and-aligned

Trigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinatriner.com/trigger-2-rooted 

VIEW MY COURSES & RESOURCES:
https://marinatriner.com/resources 

CONNECT WITH  ME:
Follow me on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/marinatriner/ 
Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner 

Top Episode Quotes:
"It's not your fault that you are the way you are — but it is your responsibility, if you want to be responsible, to work on this." — Wendy Behary
"You don't have to be angry all the time to justify your position. The best place we can get ourselves to is solid, steady conviction." — Wendy Behary
"Narcissists don't sit there plotting to hurt you. They are acting in defense of their ego — and they will run you over to protect it, but that is a different thing." — Wendy Behary
"When you're in your healthy adult mode, what would that part of you say about this? That's always the question I bring people back to." — Wendy Behary
"The grandiosity is a masquerade. It is covering the shame. All of it is a compensation for feeling deeply insecure at the core." — Wendy Behary

narcissism, trauma healing, nervous system regulation, somatic healing, narcissistic abuse recovery, attachment healing, schema therapy, inner child work, emotional regulation, relational healing, people pleasing, self abandonment, codependency healing, self worth, healthy adult self, trauma bonding, complex trauma, deep within podcast, Wendy Behary, disarming the narcissist

In this episode I sit down with Dave Nelson, author of The Tao of Flow and performance coach to C-suite executives at Fortune 500 companies, whose work sits at the intersection of ancient Taoist wisdom, modern neuroscience, and elite performance science. Dave shares his own burnout story — the migraines, the exploding phone, the 2500 staff and the moment his body finally said enough — and we talk about what it actually means to balance the yin and the yang in your life, why most people never experience flow state even once, and how being regulated in the nervous system is the real foundation of high performance. We also get into breathwork, meditation, the magic of doing nothing, and why playfulness is not a luxury but a biological necessity.
This one surprised me in the best way — deeply practical, honest, and full of things I needed to hear.
Connect with Dave:
https://taoofflow.ai/
Instagram.com/davenelson.official

WORK WITH ME 1:1:
❥Softening into self- 3 month 1:1 with Whats App Support: https://marina-yt.mykajabi.com/offers/PAWQhZHu
❥❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewform

DOWNLOAD FOR FREE:
Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinatriner.com/stay-or-go-guide

Attatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinatriner.com/attachment-practice 

Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinatriner.com/connect-and-ground

Alive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinatriner.com/alive-and-aligned

Trigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinatriner.com/trigger-2-rooted 

VIEW MY COURSES & RESOURCES:
https://marinatriner.com/resources 

CONNECT WITH  ME:
Follow me on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/marinatriner/ 
Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner 

Top Episode Quotes:
"High performance is yin and yang. We all think it's all yang — but the mastery of flow, peak performance and longevity is being able to dance between the two." — Dave Nelson
"The real secret of flow state is being able to relax in the most tense moment. That is where peak performance actually lives." — Dave Nelson
"Most people live rushed and agitated and overthinking. And being stuck in the head — that's the hardest one to fix. Everything else is easy." — Dave Nelson
"You want to be flow-ready every day — with a playful, regulated nervous system. That is level one. Being able to stay relaxed when you're triggered is level two." — Dave Nelson
"Yin should be our natural state that we navigate through life from — and we enter short periods of yang when needed. Most of us have that completely backwards." — Dave Nelson

burnout recovery, nervous system regulation, flow state, somatic healing, trauma healing, yin and yang, high performance, breathwork, emotional regulation, survival mode, self trust, embodiment, inner child work, Taoism and wellness, stress and the body, regulation and productivity, deep within podcast, Dave Nelson, Tao of Flow, parasympathetic nervous system

In this episode I sit down with Lauren Ohayon, creator of the Restore Your Core method and a renowned yoga and Pilates instructor with over 25 years of experience who has helped more than 10,000 women reconnect with their pelvic floor and core when nothing else worked. We talk about why the pelvic floor is so much more than what we have been taught, why Kegels are not the answer, what completing a stress cycle actually means and why it matters, and how so many women are empowered and yet completely disconnected from their own pleasure and sensation. Lauren also busts some of the biggest myths around orgasms, vibrators, and what a healthy pelvic floor actually feels like — and shares one of the most grounding personal stories I have heard on this podcast.
This one is rich, funny, deeply educational, and long overdue.

Connect with Lauren:
https://restoreyourcore.com/
www.instgram.com/thelaurenohayon

WORK WITH ME 1:1:
❥Softening into self- 3 month 1:1 with Whats App Support: https://marina-yt.mykajabi.com/offers/PAWQhZHu
❥❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewform

DOWNLOAD FOR FREE:
Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinatriner.com/stay-or-go-guide

Attatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinatriner.com/attachment-practice 

Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinatriner.com/connect-and-ground

Alive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinatriner.com/alive-and-aligned

Trigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinatriner.com/trigger-2-rooted 

VIEW MY COURSES & RESOURCES:
https://marinatriner.com/resources 

CONNECT WITH  ME:
Follow me on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/marinatriner/ 
Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner 

Top Episode Quotes:
"You can't be safe anywhere if you're not safe in all of you. All of you needs to be known to you, felt by you, to really have true agency, embodiment and safety." — Lauren Ohayon
"The human brain is designed to get us through the day. But the human body needs to complete the stress cycle — and those are two very different things." — Lauren Ohayon
"We have raised such empowered women who know everything about sex but know nothing about pleasure. And those are not the same thing." — Lauren Ohayon
"A tighter pelvic floor is not what we're after. The idea that tighter means healthier is a myth — and it's doing a lot of harm." — Lauren Ohayon
"Embodiment is going that layer in where you're not just performing with your body — you are your body. You've become the object you're working with." — Lauren Ohayon

somatic healing, nervous system regulation, trauma healing, pelvic floor, embodiment, stress cycle, pleasure and sexuality, women's health, inner child work, emotional regulation, attachment healing, self trust, body based healing, sexual trauma healing, burnout recovery, survival mode, deep within podcast, Lauren Ohayon, restore your core, somatic coaching

In this episode, I sit down with Michelle Chalfant, holistic therapist, life coach, and creator of The Adult Chair model, whose podcast has surpassed 11 million downloads and whose work has helped thousands of people heal codependency, emotional wounds, and relationship patterns at the root. Michelle shares her five-pillar methodology for living as a healthy adult — covering how to own your reality, build self-compassion, feel your emotions, work your triggers, and set boundaries that actually stick — and we go deep on narcissism, codependency, why we keep attracting the same people, and what it actually takes to change the signal we're putting out. She also shares practical tools, free resources, and one of the funniest and most grounding stories I have heard in a long time.
This one is rich, practical, and full of permission to do this work in a way that actually makes sense.

Connect with Michelle:
https://www.theadultchair.com/
https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant
Free Course: https://courses.theadultchair.com/offers/z2vYXUwr/checkout 
Adult Chair Book: https://courses.theadultchair.com/the-adult-chair-book 

WORK WITH ME 1:1:
❥Softening into self- 3 month 1:1 with Whats App Support: https://marina-yt.mykajabi.com/offers/PAWQhZHu
❥❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewform
DOWNLOAD FOR FREE:
Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinatriner.com/stay-or-go-guide

Attatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinatriner.com/attachment-practice 

Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinatriner.com/connect-and-ground

Alive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinatriner.com/alive-and-aligned

Trigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinatriner.com/trigger-2-rooted 

VIEW MY COURSES & RESOURCES:
https://marinatriner.com/resources 

CONNECT WITH  ME:
Follow me on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/marinatriner/ 
Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner 

Top Episode Quotes:
"Codependency is an identity we form when we're younger. Other people become our oxygen to exist in the world — and we don't even know we're doing it." — Michelle Chalfant
"No one can trigger you. You are triggered because you have an unconscious belief inside of you that's being activated by them." — Michelle Chalfant
"When you can say I wonder why this is happening for me — not to me, for me — you pivot out of the victim seat and into empowerment." — Michelle Chalfant
"Boundary scripts do nothing if you don't feel worthy. You've got to set boundaries chin down — fully embodied, believing what you're saying." — Michelle Chalfant
"Self-compassion is the Kryptonite to shame. You have to reach for that voice, cultivate it — it is a conscious choice." — Michelle Chalfant

somatic healing, nervous system regulation, trauma healing, inner child work, emotional regulation, narcissism, codependency healing, people pleasing, attachment healing, self worth, self compassion, triggers and trauma, relational healing, boundaries, adult chair, embodiment, survival mode, burnout recovery, deep within podcast, Michelle Chalfant

In this episode I want to talk about something that sits at the heart of so much relational pain for complex trauma survivors — needs. Specifically, why the needs we crave the most are usually the ones that were never met in childhood, why that creates a desperateness that can push people away, and how we end up in a cycle of repressing our needs until we finally explode. I share the distinction that has changed everything for me and for my clients: the difference between expectations and standards, and why one comes from a wounded child place and the other comes from a grounded, secure sense of self. This one is practical, personal, and I think it is going to land somewhere deep. 

WORK WITH ME 1:1:
❥Softening into self- 3 month 1:1 with Whats App Support:https://marina-yt.mykajabi.com/offers/PAWQhZHu
❥❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewform

DOWNLOAD FOR FREE:
Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinayt.com/stay-or-go-guide

Attatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinayt.com/attachment-practice 

Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinayt.com/connect-and-ground

Alive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinayt.com/alive-and-aligned

Trigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rooted 

VIEW MY COURSES & RESOURCES:
https://marinayt.com/resources 

CONNECT WITH  ME:
Follow me on Instagram:⁠ ⁠www.instagram.com/marina.y.t⁠⁠ 
Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner 

Top Episode Quotes:
"Just because you have a need, you're not needy. It's not the need itself — it's the energy behind the need." — Marina
"A need is just a need. It's like a desk. Is this desk too much? I don't think so. It's just a desk." — Marina
"When we again and again abandon ourselves by saying that's okay, I don't need that — we've already left the relationship. We're already gone." — Marina
"Expectations come from a child place that says I need an adult to meet me or I won't survive. Standards come from inside yourself — they are yours." — Marina
"Because I feel this loyalty to myself that I am going to get this need met no matter what — I don't linger in desperation. I just know." — Marina

somatic healing, nervous system regulation, trauma healing, complex trauma, inner child work, emotional regulation, attachment healing, self trust, needs and boundaries, people pleasing healing, self abandonment, relational healing, codependency healing, secure attachment, standards vs expectations, embodiment, survival mode, burnout recovery, deep within podcast, somatic coaching