Deep Within with Marina Triner, The Compassionate Somatic Coach

If you're stuck in the question of whether to stay or go, anxious, exhausted, and wondering why your partner isn't doing the work, this conversation is for you. I sat down with Becky Aste, trauma-informed marriage coach, somatic practitioner, CEO of I Do Breakthrough, and host of the Your Breakthrough Blueprint Podcast, who took her own marriage from the brink of divorce to thriving after a decade of trying every mainstream modality.
Becky shares the story of the "chase and run" dance she and her husband were locked in, why ten years of talk therapy, books, and couples counseling gave her a lot of language but very little change, and what finally shifted when she started working from the body up. We talk about how to tell the difference between replay and reality when you're triggered, why you can change a relational dynamic even when your partner isn't on board, how to work with resentment, and why codependency may have an expiration date as an identity. Becky also walks through simple, practical tools you can use on your own, in your own room, starting today. You don't have to figure out the answer from your head. Your body knows more than you've been allowed to trust.
Connect with Becky:
https://www.idobreakthrough.com
https://www.instagram.com/becky_aste

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Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinatriner.com/stay-or-go-guide

Attatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinatriner.com/attachment-practice 

Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinatriner.com/connect-and-ground

Alive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinatriner.com/alive-and-aligned

Trigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinatriner.com/trigger-2-rooted 

VIEW MY COURSES & RESOURCES:
https://marinatriner.com/resources 

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Top Episode Quotes:
"A lot of language, not a lot of change." - Becky Aste

"Is there an actual bear in the room, or does this just remind me of that feeling I had in my body back when there actually was a bear in the room?" - Becky Aste

"Resentment always points to an area of your life where you have an unspoken boundary." - Becky Aste

"Intuition is settled. It's not shouting. It's not loud. It's this deep, deep knowing." - Becky Aste

"You are not codependent. You are not anxiously attached. You're so much more than that." - Becky Aste

should I stay or go, saving a marriage, somatic healing, nervous system regulation, anxious attachment, codependency, relational patterns, triggers, replay or reality, self trust, boundaries, resentment, self abandonment, deep within podcast, Becky Aste

If you were the one in your family who saw the dysfunction clearly, named it, and then somehow ended up carrying all the shame for it, this episode is for you. I sat down with Dr. Deniz Ahmadinia, licensed clinical psychologist and trauma survivor, to talk about the scapegoat role: what it costs the person who sees clearly, and what it actually takes to take your power back.
We get into how systems, whether a family, a workplace, a religion, or a government, use the same tactics to maintain control: gaslighting, invalidation, silencing, blame-shifting. Dr. Deniz walks through why it can take years, or a big life event like a divorce, before someone has enough safety to actually see their own family's dysfunction, and how chronic invalidation disconnects us from our own bodies and inner knowing. We also talk about the difference between a past wound and a present harm, why self-regulation alone isn't enough if you're regulating your way through ongoing mistreatment, and what it means to finally come home to yourself. This conversation is honest, tender, and genuinely reparative.

Connect with Dr. Deniz:
https://www.drdeniz.com/
https://www.instagram.com/drdenizpsyd/

WORK WITH ME 1:1:
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DOWNLOAD FOR FREE:
Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinatriner.com/stay-or-go-guide

Attatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinatriner.com/attachment-practice 

Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinatriner.com/connect-and-ground

Alive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinatriner.com/alive-and-aligned

Trigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinatriner.com/trigger-2-rooted 

VIEW MY COURSES & RESOURCES:
https://marinatriner.com/resources 
CONNECT WITH  ME:
Follow me on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/marinatriner/ 
Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner 

Top Episode Quotes:
"The person or people who are in that role as a scapegoat have an up close and personal experience with the dysfunction in a way that is less veiled than the other members of the family." - Dr. Deniz Ahmadinia

"It's never gone though. It's just waiting till it's safe enough to return to it." - Dr. Deniz Ahmadinia

"Am I just self-regulating and trying to find safety so I can keep tolerating the same condition?" - Dr. Deniz Ahmadinia

"We need more truth tellers. We need more truth speakers. And that is both the burden and the gift of being a scapegoat." - Dr. Deniz Ahmadinia

"Taking our power back for me comes through the body. This is where our knowing, our truth, our wisdom, our intelligence lives." - Dr. Deniz Ahmadinia

scapegoat role, dysfunctional family systems, systems of power, gaslighting, invalidation, inner child healing, parts work, trauma healing, self abandonment, nervous system regulation, taking your power back, narcissistic family, deep within podcast, Dr Deniz Ahmadinia

Why do we keep ending up with people who hurt us, even when we swear it won't happen again? I sat down with Dr. Galit Atlas, renowned psychoanalyst, faculty member at NYU's Postdoctoral Program in Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis and at Columbia University, and author of the international bestseller Emotional Inheritance, to talk about exactly that. Her new book, Come Closer: Childhood Wounds, Adult Love and the Secrets of Emotional Intimacy, releases the same day this episode airs.
We get into Freud's concept of repetition compulsion, why the familiar so often gets mistaken for safety, and why changing a pattern can feel like losing your own identity. Dr. Atlas introduces the different "children" that live inside all of us (the frightened child, the guilty child, the invisible child, and more) and how giving each of them a seat at the table is the real path to change. We also talk about self-abandonment, what it actually means to hold two people in mind during conflict, and why over-functioning is so often a defense against vulnerability. This conversation is rich, honest, and full of the kind of insight that makes you see your own patterns differently.

Connect with Dr. Galit Atlas:
https://www.galitatlas.com/
https://www.instagram.com/galit_atlas
https://wildanalysiswithgalitatlas.substack.com/
Come Closer Book: https://www.galitatlas.com/home-1-1 

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DOWNLOAD FOR FREE:
Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinatriner.com/stay-or-go-guide

Attatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinatriner.com/attachment-practice 

Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinatriner.com/connect-and-ground

Alive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinatriner.com/alive-and-aligned

Trigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinatriner.com/trigger-2-rooted 

VIEW MY COURSES & RESOURCES:
https://marinatriner.com/resources 

CONNECT WITH  ME:
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Top Episode Quotes:
"We go to the same place with the fantasy that not only is this time going to be different, this is going to repair everything that ever happened to us." - Dr. Galit Atlas
"The familiar is not more safe than the stranger. It's more threatening, but it's not more dangerous." - Dr. Galit Atlas
"When I change a pattern, I am not the same person. And what am I going to do without me?" - Dr. Galit Atlas
"Why do you need permission to leave a place that is hurtful?" - Dr. Galit Atlas
"Rigidity is what makes us fragile." - Dr. Galit Atlas

repetition compulsion, relational patterns, why we choose the same partners, childhood trauma, self abandonment, inner child work, emotional inheritance, come closer book, psychoanalysis, attachment healing, vulnerability, self worth, deep within podcast, Dr Galit Atlas

If you've ever felt completely stuck in a decision, ruminating on it for weeks or months, heartbroken and looping and exhausted, this episode is for you. I'm sharing something that has changed my life more than almost anything else I teach: the realization that when we feel that intensely stuck, it's rarely about the thing in front of us. It's about something much older.
I tell the story of the night I finally knew my marriage was over, sick with Covid, completely undefended, and how a simple parts work practice cracked open a truth I hadn't let myself see: my stuckness wasn't about my marriage at all. It was a much older fear, one that started long before I ever met my husband. I walk you through the concept, the process, and why understanding this can bring you so much relief the next time you feel trapped in your own mind. You are not broken for feeling this stuck. There is a reason, and it is findable.

Join Safe to Connect: https://marinatriner.com/safe-to-connect

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DOWNLOAD FOR FREE:
Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinatriner.com/stay-or-go-guide

Attatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinatriner.com/attachment-practice 

Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinatriner.com/connect-and-ground

Alive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinatriner.com/alive-and-aligned

Trigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinatriner.com/trigger-2-rooted 

VIEW MY COURSES & RESOURCES:
https://marinatriner.com/resources 

CONNECT WITH  ME:
Follow me on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/marinatriner/ 
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Top Episode Quotes:
"My stuckness wasn't actually about this relationship. It was a very deep fear." - Marina
"When we don't feel safe, we don't go into the body, because that's where all the intense emotion is." - Marina
"You're feeling like there's a tiger in the room and the tiger is chasing you, and you've got to make a decision right away." - Marina
"This intense emotion is not actually about the present moment. It's actually about the past." - Marina
"Once you get to see it and you start to process the grief of it, your body starts to have completely different energy, and you no longer accept that treatment anymore." - Marina

decision paralysis, childhood trauma healing, nervous system regulation, parts work, somatic healing, rumination, emotional healing, inner child healing, trauma and relationships, self trust, deep within podcast, Marina Triner

Some of the deepest wounds are the ones you can't quite point to. Not a big, dramatic event, just an absence, an emptiness, a loneliness that never fully goes away. I sat down with Morgan Pommells, who specializes in helping adult children of emotionally immature parents, to finally put language to something so many of us have felt but couldn't name.
We get into what emotional immaturity actually is (and why it's not the same as narcissism), why this kind of wounding is so easy to dismiss as "not that bad," and how it shows up decades later as a false, performative self, chronic overfunctioning, and a deep fear of asking for support. Morgan also walks through how this pattern replays in romantic relationships, what enmeshment versus true differentiation looks like, and what it actually takes to start seeing yourself through your own eyes instead of your parents'. If you've ever felt like you had "a good enough childhood" but something still feels off, this conversation is going to land.

Connect with Morgan:
https://www.morganpommells.com/
https://www.instagram.com/morganpommells/?hl=en
Nervous system program opening in the fall: https://artisanal-painter-4513.kit.com/1d0ecb021c

WORK WITH ME 1:1:
❥Softening into self- 3 month 1:1 with Whats App Support: https://marina-yt.mykajabi.com/offers/PAWQhZHu
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DOWNLOAD FOR FREE:
Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinatriner.com/stay-or-go-guide

Attatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinatriner.com/attachment-practice 

Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinatriner.com/connect-and-ground

Alive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinatriner.com/alive-and-aligned

Trigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinatriner.com/trigger-2-rooted 

VIEW MY COURSES & RESOURCES:
https://marinatriner.com/resources 

CONNECT WITH  ME:
Follow me on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/marinatriner/ 
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Top Episode Quotes:
"It's not just the big things you can easily identify as happening. A lot of this wounding is sneaky, insidious, and it is about what didn't happen." - Morgan Pommells
"If my god-like parent cannot survive me feeling, then I can't survive this feeling." - Morgan Pommells
"You have to be able to give yourself permission to get it wrong, while staying with yourself." - Morgan Pommells
"I am not unworthy of love. Nobody's going to love me are two completely different wounds. One is about who you are, the other is about how the world is going to experience you." - Morgan Pommells
"Who I am at my core is good. It's no longer that there's something fundamentally wrong with me." - Morgan Pommells

emotionally immature parents, childhood emotional neglect, relational trauma, inner child healing, self worth, adult children of emotionally immature parents, enmeshment vs differentiation, attunement and mirroring, self trust, codependency, people pleasing, nervous system regulation, trauma healing, deep within podcast, Morgan Pommells