Deep Within with Marina Triner, The Compassionate Somatic Coach

In this episode I sit down with Lauren Ohayon, creator of the Restore Your Core method and a renowned yoga and Pilates instructor with over 25 years of experience who has helped more than 10,000 women reconnect with their pelvic floor and core when nothing else worked. We talk about why the pelvic floor is so much more than what we have been taught, why Kegels are not the answer, what completing a stress cycle actually means and why it matters, and how so many women are empowered and yet completely disconnected from their own pleasure and sensation. Lauren also busts some of the biggest myths around orgasms, vibrators, and what a healthy pelvic floor actually feels like — and shares one of the most grounding personal stories I have heard on this podcast.
This one is rich, funny, deeply educational, and long overdue.

Connect with Lauren:
https://restoreyourcore.com/
www.instgram.com/thelaurenohayon

WORK WITH ME 1:1:
❥Softening into self- 3 month 1:1 with Whats App Support: https://marina-yt.mykajabi.com/offers/PAWQhZHu
❥❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewform

DOWNLOAD FOR FREE:
Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinatriner.com/stay-or-go-guide

Attatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinatriner.com/attachment-practice 

Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinatriner.com/connect-and-ground

Alive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinatriner.com/alive-and-aligned

Trigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinatriner.com/trigger-2-rooted 

VIEW MY COURSES & RESOURCES:
https://marinatriner.com/resources 

CONNECT WITH  ME:
Follow me on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/marinatriner/ 
Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner 

Top Episode Quotes:
"You can't be safe anywhere if you're not safe in all of you. All of you needs to be known to you, felt by you, to really have true agency, embodiment and safety." — Lauren Ohayon
"The human brain is designed to get us through the day. But the human body needs to complete the stress cycle — and those are two very different things." — Lauren Ohayon
"We have raised such empowered women who know everything about sex but know nothing about pleasure. And those are not the same thing." — Lauren Ohayon
"A tighter pelvic floor is not what we're after. The idea that tighter means healthier is a myth — and it's doing a lot of harm." — Lauren Ohayon
"Embodiment is going that layer in where you're not just performing with your body — you are your body. You've become the object you're working with." — Lauren Ohayon

somatic healing, nervous system regulation, trauma healing, pelvic floor, embodiment, stress cycle, pleasure and sexuality, women's health, inner child work, emotional regulation, attachment healing, self trust, body based healing, sexual trauma healing, burnout recovery, survival mode, deep within podcast, Lauren Ohayon, restore your core, somatic coaching

In this episode, I sit down with Michelle Chalfant, holistic therapist, life coach, and creator of The Adult Chair model, whose podcast has surpassed 11 million downloads and whose work has helped thousands of people heal codependency, emotional wounds, and relationship patterns at the root. Michelle shares her five-pillar methodology for living as a healthy adult — covering how to own your reality, build self-compassion, feel your emotions, work your triggers, and set boundaries that actually stick — and we go deep on narcissism, codependency, why we keep attracting the same people, and what it actually takes to change the signal we're putting out. She also shares practical tools, free resources, and one of the funniest and most grounding stories I have heard in a long time.
This one is rich, practical, and full of permission to do this work in a way that actually makes sense.

Connect with Michelle:
https://www.theadultchair.com/
https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant
Free Course: https://courses.theadultchair.com/offers/z2vYXUwr/checkout 
Adult Chair Book: https://courses.theadultchair.com/the-adult-chair-book 

WORK WITH ME 1:1:
❥Softening into self- 3 month 1:1 with Whats App Support: https://marina-yt.mykajabi.com/offers/PAWQhZHu
❥❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewform
DOWNLOAD FOR FREE:
Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinatriner.com/stay-or-go-guide

Attatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinatriner.com/attachment-practice 

Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinatriner.com/connect-and-ground

Alive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinatriner.com/alive-and-aligned

Trigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinatriner.com/trigger-2-rooted 

VIEW MY COURSES & RESOURCES:
https://marinatriner.com/resources 

CONNECT WITH  ME:
Follow me on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/marinatriner/ 
Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner 

Top Episode Quotes:
"Codependency is an identity we form when we're younger. Other people become our oxygen to exist in the world — and we don't even know we're doing it." — Michelle Chalfant
"No one can trigger you. You are triggered because you have an unconscious belief inside of you that's being activated by them." — Michelle Chalfant
"When you can say I wonder why this is happening for me — not to me, for me — you pivot out of the victim seat and into empowerment." — Michelle Chalfant
"Boundary scripts do nothing if you don't feel worthy. You've got to set boundaries chin down — fully embodied, believing what you're saying." — Michelle Chalfant
"Self-compassion is the Kryptonite to shame. You have to reach for that voice, cultivate it — it is a conscious choice." — Michelle Chalfant

somatic healing, nervous system regulation, trauma healing, inner child work, emotional regulation, narcissism, codependency healing, people pleasing, attachment healing, self worth, self compassion, triggers and trauma, relational healing, boundaries, adult chair, embodiment, survival mode, burnout recovery, deep within podcast, Michelle Chalfant

In this episode I want to talk about something that sits at the heart of so much relational pain for complex trauma survivors — needs. Specifically, why the needs we crave the most are usually the ones that were never met in childhood, why that creates a desperateness that can push people away, and how we end up in a cycle of repressing our needs until we finally explode. I share the distinction that has changed everything for me and for my clients: the difference between expectations and standards, and why one comes from a wounded child place and the other comes from a grounded, secure sense of self. This one is practical, personal, and I think it is going to land somewhere deep. 

WORK WITH ME 1:1:
❥Softening into self- 3 month 1:1 with Whats App Support:https://marina-yt.mykajabi.com/offers/PAWQhZHu
❥❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewform

DOWNLOAD FOR FREE:
Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinayt.com/stay-or-go-guide

Attatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinayt.com/attachment-practice 

Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinayt.com/connect-and-ground

Alive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinayt.com/alive-and-aligned

Trigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rooted 

VIEW MY COURSES & RESOURCES:
https://marinayt.com/resources 

CONNECT WITH  ME:
Follow me on Instagram:⁠ ⁠www.instagram.com/marina.y.t⁠⁠ 
Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner 

Top Episode Quotes:
"Just because you have a need, you're not needy. It's not the need itself — it's the energy behind the need." — Marina
"A need is just a need. It's like a desk. Is this desk too much? I don't think so. It's just a desk." — Marina
"When we again and again abandon ourselves by saying that's okay, I don't need that — we've already left the relationship. We're already gone." — Marina
"Expectations come from a child place that says I need an adult to meet me or I won't survive. Standards come from inside yourself — they are yours." — Marina
"Because I feel this loyalty to myself that I am going to get this need met no matter what — I don't linger in desperation. I just know." — Marina

somatic healing, nervous system regulation, trauma healing, complex trauma, inner child work, emotional regulation, attachment healing, self trust, needs and boundaries, people pleasing healing, self abandonment, relational healing, codependency healing, secure attachment, standards vs expectations, embodiment, survival mode, burnout recovery, deep within podcast, somatic coaching

For a long time I believed that healing would eventually land me somewhere close to permanent bliss — a place where I stopped getting triggered, stopped struggling, stopped feeling the weight of everything I was carrying. In this episode I want to talk honestly about why that idea kept me confused, and what I now understand the real point of healing actually is. I share what has been shifting for me lately — after my marriage ended, after estrangement, after every coping mechanism I had quietly collapsed — and the concept that has become the heart of everything I do with my clients: disconfirming experiences. What it means to take your deepest wound from childhood and begin to receive the opposite of it in real life. Not just through inner work, but through living. 

WORK WITH ME 1:1:
❥Softening into self- 3 month 1:1 with Whats App Support:https://marina-yt.mykajabi.com/offers/PAWQhZHu
❥❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewform
DOWNLOAD FOR FREE:
Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinayt.com/stay-or-go-guide

Attatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinayt.com/attachment-practice 

Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinayt.com/connect-and-ground

Alive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinayt.com/alive-and-aligned

Trigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rooted 

VIEW MY COURSES & RESOURCES:
https://marinayt.com/resources 

CONNECT WITH  ME:
Follow me on Instagram:⁠ ⁠www.instagram.com/marina.y.t⁠⁠ 
Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner 

Top Episode Quotes:
"Healing doesn't lead you to pure bliss all the time. It leads you back to yourself — to who you actually are beneath all the coping." — Marina
"When authenticity and connection become the same thing, that's how you know you're healing." — Marina
"I still get triggered. I still have money triggers, relationship triggers. But what's changed is — I'm okay with it. It doesn't feel like my life is ending." — Marina
"The most beautiful thing that can happen is a disconfirming experience — taking your deepest wound and beginning to receive the opposite of it in real life." — Marina
"As a child, you will always choose connection over authenticity — because your caregivers are your safety. And that is where so much complex trauma is born." — Marina

somatic healing, nervous system regulation, trauma healing, complex trauma, inner child work, emotional regulation, attachment healing, self trust, burnout recovery, survival mode, people pleasing, embodiment, relational healing, authenticity, disconfirming experiences, CPTSD healing, somatic coaching, deep within podcast, emotional safety, identity healing

In this episode I sit down with Sabrina Bendory, bestselling author and relationship coach whose work has reached tens of millions of people, to talk about something so many of us know intimately — the cycle of chasing the ones who don't choose us, while pushing away the ones who do. Sabrina shares her own decade of toxic relationship patterns, dating narcissists and emotionally unavailable men, and exactly what it took to finally break free — including what she calls her "Summer of Me," the moment everything changed. We talk about where the void actually comes from, what detachment really means, how approval addiction keeps us stuck, and what it feels like in your body when a relationship is finally healthy.
This one is raw, honest, and deeply practical — and I think it is going to meet a lot of you exactly where you are.

Connect with Sabrina:
sabrinabendory.com
www.instagram.com/sabrinabendory
Sabrina's book: https://amzn.to/4cCcKZp

WORK WITH ME 1:1:
❥Softening into self- 3 month 1:1 with Whats App Support:https://marina-yt.mykajabi.com/offers/PAWQhZHu
❥❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewform
DOWNLOAD FOR FREE:
Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinayt.com/stay-or-go-guide

Attatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinayt.com/attachment-practice 

Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinayt.com/connect-and-ground

Alive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinayt.com/alive-and-aligned

Trigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rooted 

VIEW MY COURSES & RESOURCES:
https://marinayt.com/resources 

CONNECT WITH  ME:
Follow me on Instagram:⁠ ⁠www.instagram.com/marina.y.t⁠⁠ 
Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner 

Top Episode Quotes:
"Being detached doesn't mean you're detaching from people. You still care, you still want love — but you are detaching from outcomes." — Sabrina Bendory
"The stink of desperation poisons everything. You have to channel that energy into something else, otherwise there's just too much at stake." — Sabrina Bendory
"I am so much more than whether or not some avoidant guy chooses me — and once I made that shift, everything started to click into place." — Sabrina Bendory
"In a healthy relationship you can be who you are, express your needs, set a boundary — and you're not afraid you're going to blow everything up." — Sabrina Bendory
"When you're too attached, you don't have the feeling of I know I'll be okay. You feel like if this person doesn't choose me, I'm going to implode." — Sabrina Bendory

somatic healing, nervous system regulation, trauma healing, attachment healing, toxic relationship patterns, narcissistic abuse recovery, inner child work, emotional regulation, relational healing, self trust, self worth, codependency healing, people pleasing, approval addiction, detachment, embodiment, survival mode, burnout recovery, choosing yourself, deep within podcast