Lust is Boring

Alex Cooper of Call Her Daddy recently told women they shouldn't feel too guilty about leaving their marriages, because they can always do better. A lot of people are upset about it. I think she's actually (partially) right, and what she said shows exactly why marriage is so beautiful.
Could your spouse find someone richer, taller, or better-looking? Probably. But in a letter to his son, J.R.R. Tolkien explains why that realization doesn't threaten a marriage. It can become the source of its security. You may be able to do better by leaving, but you can never do the best.
In this video:
What Alex Cooper got right (and what she missed)
Tolkien's famous letter on the "real soulmate"
Why "compatible" literally means "to suffer with"
Why lasting marriages don't depend on a perfect fit
▶ My podcast with Christopher West on dating and marriage: [LINK]
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Can't stop thinking about your partner's sexual past? Here's how to keep it from ruining your future.
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SUMMARY
You've met someone amazing and can see a future together, but thoughts of them with other people keep haunting you. Maybe you're dating, engaged or already married, and you're wondering if this will ever go away or just hang over your relationship forever.
I've been there. I saved my virginity for marriage, and my wife Crystalina didn't. For years I sat through her testimony, sometimes several times a day, as we spoke at schools and universities. In this video I'll walk you through the game plan that helped me work through it: 4 things NOT to do, 5 things you need to do, and one bonus tip that changed how I saw the whole situation.
In this video:
When their past haunts you
My story
DON'T #1: Stuff it
DON'T #2: Rub their nose in it
DON'T #3: Infect your own wound
DON'T #4: Get too specific with details
DO #1: Pray: gratitude, healing, conversion
DO #2: Live purely in your relationship
DO #3: Talk about it (the right way)
DO #4: Man up
DO #5: Be patient with yourself
Bonus tip: Her true "first time"
Key takeaways:
Feeling hurt by their past doesn't make you insecure or unforgiving. It means you have a human heart.
Look past the anger to what's underneath: disappointment, jealousy, insecurity.
Know when it happened and with how many people. You don't need more detail than that.
Forgiveness isn't forgetting. It's learning to remember the past differently.
She can't give you her past, but she can give you her future.
Resources mentioned:
▶ Sister Miriam James – How to Heal a Broken Heart
▶ JP2 Healing Center / Dr. Bob Schuchts: https://jp2healingcenter.org
▶ Love and Responsibility by Pope St. John Paul II
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A year ago, two Catholic families were in children's hospitals at the same time. Our son came home with his cancer diagnosis reversed. Paul's son went home to God. Catholic speaker Paul J. Kim joins me to share what's happened since his 5-year-old son Micah passed away last December: a family pilgrimage to Rome and Assisi, a private Mass with Cardinal Burke, meeting Pope Leo XIV, embracing Antonia Acutis (mother of St. Carlo Acutis) on Carlo's first feast day as a saint, and a meeting at the Vatican's Dicastery for the Causes of Saints. Paul also shares the flood of testimonies that have come in from people who asked Micah to pray for them, including 153 couples struggling with infertility who are now expecting. Recorded on the Feast of St. John Paul II. "Blessed are they who mourn, for they shall be comforted." (Matthew 5:4)
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🙏 PRAYER FOR PRIVATE DEVOTION — MICAH KIM This prayer is for private devotion only. It is not a declaration of sainthood or beatification, and it may not be used in the liturgy. Paul has reviewed it with Cardinal Burke and his local diocese. Lord, we thank You for the example of Micah Joseph Kim, whose short but radiant life reflected your joy and goodness to all those around him. We ask for the grace to grow in childlike faith, hope, love, and purity of heart as Micah did; and that the following intention would be answered through his intercession: (Mention your specific prayer intention) We ask this through Christ Our Lord, Amen. Our Father., Hail Mary, Glory Be. Conclude with the St. Michael Prayer (Micah's favorite) Saint Michael the Archangel, defend us in battle. Be our protection against the wickedness and snares of the devil. May God rebuke him, we humbly pray; and do thou, O Prince of the heavenly hosts, by the power of God, cast into hell Satan and all the evil spirits who prowl about the world seeking the ruin of souls. Amen. Micah Joseph Kim, pray for us. 
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🇰🇷 JOIN US AT WORLD YOUTH DAY SEOUL 2027 Paul J. Kim, Jason & Crystalina Evert, and Fr. Leo Patalinghug are leading a pilgrimage to World Youth Day in Seoul, South Korea, August 1–10, 2027. All ages and families are welcome, from any country. The trip includes shrines of the Korean martyrs, the World Youth Day vigil, and the closing Mass with Pope Leo XIV. Sign up: https://selectinternationaltours.com/...
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🔗 LINKS • Paul J. Kim: https://pjkmusic.com
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