#313 How We Raised 7 Well-Adjusted Kids Without Yelling, Tantrums, Punishments or Power Struggles
Do your kids struggle with tantrums, power struggles, or emotional meltdowns—and you’re not sure how to stop the cycle without yelling or harsh discipline?After posting on Instagram about how we raised our 7 kids without yelling, punishments, or power struggles, we received so much interest and questions from parents wanting to know—is it really possible?Yes, it is—and in this episode, we share exactly how we did it.Raising emotionally healthy, well-adjusted kids starts with creating a strong foundation of love, trust, and connection. In this conversation, we unpack the specific things we never do as parents, and why avoiding them has helped our children become confident, competent, and emotionally resilient.From mockery and sarcasm to yelling, punishments, and ignoring big feelings—these parenting pitfalls actually increase misbehavior, power struggles, and emotional shutdown.We also share personal stories—including a controversial ocean swim encounter—that demonstrate how pushing limits (safely and intentionally) builds competence, confidence, and calm under pressure—for kids and adults.Whether you're parenting toddlers or teens, these insights will help you shift your mindset and methods to raise kids who thrive without tantrums, yelling, or power struggles.Key Takeaways:✅ Strong attachment = strong self-worth✅ Small emotional habits shape your child's future✅ Sarcasm erodes trust—kindness builds connection✅ Harshness leads to fragility and misbehavior✅ Family culture and personal growth go hand in hand✅ Confidence comes from challenge, not comfortChapters:00:00 Raising Well-Adjusted Kids on the Move10:39 Understanding Tantrums and Yelling15:45 Prioritizing Connection Over Correction27:41 Investing Time for Long-Term Benefits29:25 The Importance of Connection Over Correction31:15 Understanding the Desire for Connection33:03 The Impact of Parental Engagement35:27 Recognizing Attachment Issues37:10 Daily Intentional Connection39:04 Behavior as a Symptom, Not the Problem41:24 Going to the Root Cause of Behavior43:41 The Investment in Parenting Knowledge47:37 Clarifying Expectations in Parenting50:27 Engaging in Clear Communication53:40 Encouraging Dialogue for Clarity01:00:08 Natural Consequences and Child Empowerment01:06:14 Establishing Family Systems for Smooth Parenting01:12:53 Emotional Co-Regulation in Parenting01:21:33 Building Resilience Through Connection and ChallengeMemorable Quotes:🗣 “We never participate in sarcasm or tearing each other down.”🗣 “Do your children feel good in your home—or do they feel fear?”🗣 “Harshness creates distance and fragility, which causes misbehavior.”🗣 “If you want different results, you’ve got to change how you parent.”🗣 “Push yourself and your kids—growth replaces fear with competence.”🗣 “The key to raising kids without tantrums is becoming emotionally safe yourself.”RESOURCES:Let us help you in your extraordinary family life journey.How We Raised 7 Well-Adjusted Kids - Without Yelling, Tantrums, Punishments or Power StrugglesRachel’s Must-Read Booklist for Well-Read MomsGreg's Recommended Reading List for Parents & YouthFollow us on Instagram: @worldschoolfamily or @greg.denningGet Rachel's Family Systems & ChartsJoin the 28-Day Challenge for MomsJoin the Do More With Less Stress Workshop Series for busy momsBecome a Founding Member of our Extraordinary Parent Mentoring MethodJoin Greg’s 7-Day Challenge JOIN GREG'S 90-DAY HEALTH & FITNESS CHALLENGE! Join the Formidable Family Man Masterclass and TribeGather with us at the World School Family (Beach & Farm) Resort in PortugalRead our reviews here: https://podcast.extraordinaryfamilylife.com/reviews/
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