160: Part 2 - The BEST Questions and How to be the BEST Date
Let’s be real—dating at any phase can feel like walking a conversational tightrope. How much is too much? What’s not enough? When should I ask? What do I say if they ask me about something that I don't want to talk about? And how do you strike that magical balance between showing up as your radiant, authentic self and still being curious, fun, and engaging?
In Part 2 of our juicy conversation, I’m back with the brilliant Lindsay Anderson, one of Smart Dating Academy’s most beloved coaches, and we’re continuing our deep dive into how to absolutely crush it on a first date.
We cover:
💥 Why “go-to” questions matter—and the one thing they must do if you want real connection
🧠 How to prepare (mentally and emotionally) so you don’t blank out or get stuck in small talk
🤔 The difference between curious and interrogating—and how to make your date feel seen, not screened
🙋 The right questions to ask to delve deeper into this person's background that are CRITICAL to know!
✨ How to keep the vibe light, flirty, and fun, even when you’re diving into deeper topics
🚫 The “date derailers” that can unintentionally kill the spark (and what to do instead!)
💬 How to gracefully redirect a convo that’s gone off course
🧭 Why self-awareness is your dating superpower—and how to tap into it
This episode is about more than just asking the right questions. It’s about showing up in a way that makes your date want to get to know you - and YOU get to know them by asking and listening for the RIGHT things. It’s about enjoying the moment, being present, and creating space for genuine connection.
Because here’s the truth: The best dates don’t feel like interviews. They feel like magic. ✨
So, whether you're just getting back out there or want to elevate your dating game, press play now. You’re going to love this one. 💕
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159: The BEST Questions and How to be the BEST Date - Part 1!
Ever wonder what makes a truly great date, and what are the best questions to ask (and how)? In this must-listen episode (part 1 of 2), the brilliant and longstanding Smart Dating Academy coach Lindsay Anderson and I sit down to break down the art of dating with confidence, ease, and authenticity. If you’ve ever felt awkward on a date, struggled with what to say or what to ask, or worried about making a lasting impression, this episode is for you! ✨
We dive into:
The key traits of a great date 💡—and how to show up as your best, most authentic self.
How to spark meaningful conversations 🗣️—and avoid awkward silences.
The most important questions to ask on a date ❓—and how to ask them in a way that feels natural and engaging.
The biggest dating conversation mistakes 🚫—and how to turn them into connection-building moments.
If dating feels more stressful than fun, don’t worry—we’ve got you covered. Tune in to learn practical, expert-backed strategies to help you date with confidence and enjoy the process. ❤️
🎧 Listen now and transform your dating experience!
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158: Why We Ignore Red Flags: Facing the Truth in Love & Dating
Ever ignored a red flag 🚩, hoping it would go away? Or felt blindsided by betrayal? You’re not alone—and it’s time to get real about why we sometimes lie to ourselves in relationships.
In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Jane Greer, a renowned marriage and family therapist, psychotherapist, and author of Am I Lying to Myself? How to Overcome Denial and See the Truth. With decades of experience helping people navigate love, loss, and trust, Dr. Greer reveals how denial and betrayal shape our relationships—and how to break free from patterns that hold us back.
We dive into:
💡 Why we stay in denial about relationship problems. Whether it’s a bad partner, an unhealthy dynamic, or something we don’t want to admit—Dr. Greer explains why we turn a blind eye (and how to stop).
💡 The psychology behind betrayal. How does betrayal happen? And why does it hurt so much? Get expert insight into the emotional impact of broken trust.
💡 Red flags you shouldn’t ignore. Learn the subtle (and not-so-subtle) warning signs that signal it’s time to pay attention.
💡 How to rebuild trust after betrayal. If you’ve been hurt, is there a way forward? Dr. Greer shares strategies for healing, whether you choose to stay or walk away.
💡 Breaking free from toxic relationship patterns. Do you find yourself in the same situations over and over? Here’s how to change your story and start making better choices.
If you’re ready to stop making excuses, see the truth in your relationships, and build healthier connections, this episode is a must-listen!
Ready to redefine your dating life or need guidance on your journey to love? Visit Smart Dating Academy to learn more about our transformative programs.
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157: How to Set Boundaries & Build Healthier Relationships with Dr. Henry Cloud
Ever feel like you're giving too much in relationships—and getting little in return? Or struggling to communicate what you truly need? You’re not alone.
In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Henry Cloud, a world-renowned clinical psychologist, leadership expert, and New York Times bestselling author of Boundaries—a book that has transformed the way millions navigate relationships. With over 20 million copies of his books sold, Dr. Cloud brings deep wisdom (and a dose of humor) to the art of setting healthy limits while still fostering connection.
We dive into:
Why boundaries are essential for thriving relationships. Whether in dating, friendships, or family dynamics, Dr. Cloud explains why saying no can actually bring you closer to the right people.
How to recognize unhealthy patterns. Learn the red flags of toxic relationships and how to break free from cycles that drain your energy.
The secret to confident communication. Struggling to express your needs? Dr. Cloud shares simple yet powerful ways to set boundaries without guilt or fear.
Dating with emotional intelligence. Discover how self-awareness can help you attract healthier, more fulfilling connections.
Overcoming the fear of rejection. Rejection isn’t just about the other person—it’s about how you respond. Dr. Cloud offers a fresh perspective that will change the way you see it.
If you're ready to level up your relationships and stop settling for less than you deserve, this episode is packed with actionable insights you won’t want to miss!
Ready to redefine your dating life or need guidance on your journey to love? Visit Smart Dating Academy to learn more about our transformative programs.
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156: How to Build Your Dating Confidence & Make a Great First Impression
What if you could transform your dating life with just a few mindset shifts and practical strategies?
In this episode, I sit down with Nichole Farrow, a renowned relationship coach with over a decade of experience helping singles and couples navigate love with confidence. As a resident expert on BBC 5 Live, Nichole has guided countless people in strengthening their relationships—starting with the most important one: the relationship with themselves.
We dive into:
Why confidence is the key to dating success. Bela and Nichole break down how self-assurance impacts attraction and gives us real-world strategies to build it.
The power of first impressions. From body language to the energy you bring into a room, learn how to captivate your date before you even say a word.
Navigating rejection like a pro. Let’s face it—rejection is part of the dating game. But Nichole shares a fresh perspective that will help you bounce back stronger.
Dating etiquette that actually matters. Forget outdated rules—Nichole reveals the small yet powerful ways you can show respect and authenticity on a date.
Self-awareness & emotional intelligence in relationships. How tuning into your emotions and understanding your patterns can help you attract the right partner.
If you’re ready to level up your dating life with expert-backed strategies and a fresh dose of confidence, this episode is a must-listen! If you're ready to change your dating life, message Smart Dating Academy today through its website at www.smartdatingacademy.com
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