BEING HER with Margarita Nazarenko

Episode mentioned: The Bossticks with Margarita Nazarenko
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Books mentioned:
Unbothered by Margarita Nazarenko
The New Rules by Margarita Nazarenko
To learn more about Margarita Nazarenko, visit https://www.margaritanazarenko.com

Welcome back to Being Her, where today it’s getting juicy, spicy and real life. Margarita is launching her new Substack, Unfiltered with Margarita, and using a viral moment from her recent appearance on The Bossticks to unpack why so many women feel burnt out, frazzled and in constant conflict with the people they love. When a clip about her husband forgetting the diapers in Las Vegas blew up online, the comment section revealed something bigger: women are carrying loads that were never theirs to carry. In this episode, Margarita breaks down the psychology of over-functioning, the difference between caring and controlling, and why stepping back and letting natural consequences play out can transform your relationships. She gets candid about her own over-functioning roots as the child of an immigrant, the mental load, catastrophizing, and why being unbothered means knowing exactly what deserves your energy. As always, 10 takeaways and 10 actionable steps.

In this episode:
1. Stop turning inconveniences into emergencies
2. You are not an emergency service for every adult in your life
3. The psychology of over functioning in a family system
4. Stop confusing caring with controlling
5. Consequences are often the best teacher, stop removing them
6. Your nervous system does not know you are arguing about small things
7. Stop treating every mistake as evidence of something bigger
8. Women are exhausted from monitoring everything
9. You cannot complain about carrying everything while refusing to put it down
10. Being unbothered means knowing what actually deserves your energy

If you do everything and nobody notices, if you correct how everyone else does things because your way is right, or if you are exhausted but cannot actually let go, this one is going to hit home.

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You already know what you need to do. You are just scared of what it is going to cost you.

Margarita is back from her book tour in America, freshly moved into a half renovated house with two small children, and she has things to say.

In this episode she shares the 10 mindset shifts that came up for her on the trip, the permissions she had to stop waiting for, and why the life you want is already inside you and has been the whole time.

In this episode:
1. You are probably not confused you are just scared of the consequences
2. Stop collecting advice you already have the answer
3. Distance tells you things proximity cannot
4. Your next life requires disappointing someone from your current one
5. Stop waiting to feel ready confidence only comes after evidence
6. When you transform the old identity will fight back hard
7. Stop making permanent decisions based on temporary emotions
8. Your life changes when you stop negotiating with what you know
9. There is no future version of you coming to save you
10. Give yourself until the end of the year to prove you can do hard things

If you know what you need to do but cannot bring yourself to do it, if you keep asking everyone else what you should do with your life, or if you are waiting to feel ready before you start, this one is for you.

This is your sign. Lock in.

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Join me for the Final round of The Unbothered Woman Ever - We start October 2nd.

She was a fashion editor at GQ and Allure. She built a fashion line that dressed every A list celebrity. Then covid shut it all down.

And at 52 years old she started over. And built the biggest success of her entire career.

In this episode Margarita sits down with Mary Alice Haney in Hollywood and has the conversation every woman in her thirties, forties and fifties needs to hear. About reinvention. About the why not me mentality. About what it actually costs to build something.

We talk about how Mary went from fashion editor to founder to podcaster, why confidence is not something you wait for it is something you fake until it becomes real, what nobody tells you about balancing motherhood and ambition, why your biggest success might still be ahead of you, and why your age and your children are not the excuses you think they are.

If you have ever thought you are too old, too busy, too far behind, or that the window has closed, this episode will change your mind.

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If there is one episode you listen to this year on anxious attachment, fear of abandonment, and why you can never fully relax in a relationship, let it be this one.

Your gut is not a wise little oracle. It is a nervous system shaped by everything that has ever happened to you. And if most of your experiences with love have involved pain, your gut has been calibrated to a setting that does not serve you when you are finally safe.

In this episode Margarita breaks down the real difference between anxiety and intuition, why trusting your gut is damaging advice for anxiously attached women, and what to do in the moment when you genuinely cannot tell which one is speaking.

In this episode:
Why anxiety and intuition feel exactly the same from the inside
Why trusting your gut is dangerous advice for anxious women
How your nervous system scans for danger even when you are safe
Why reassurance is a leaky bucket that will never fill
The three question framework to tell anxiety from intuition
What real intuition actually feels like vs anxious spiraling
What hyper independent women do when they finally feel something real
How to regulate before you react and ruin something good
When to stay and when the signal is actually real
What changes when you finally learn to tell the difference

If you can never fully relax no matter how much he shows up, if you need certainty just to feel okay, or if you are exhausted by your own spiral and just want it to stop, this one is for you.

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If you have been trying to step into your feminine energy but everything you have followed so far has felt like a performance, doing all the right things, not texting first, being soft, letting him lead, and still feeling the same anxiety underneath because nothing you were taught actually changed how you feel on the inside, this episode is for you.

In this episode I break down why the mainstream version of feminine energy is keeping you stuck in a cycle of performing for an outcome instead of actually embodying who you are, the real definition of feminine energy that no one is talking about, and the specific practices that shift you from managing every outcome to being so anchored in yourself that you never lose her again.

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