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Victoria grew up watching her father abuse her mother, never knowing what would happen behind closed doors. In this episode, she shares what it was like growing up in a home shaped by domestic violence, addiction, and fear, and how those experiences continued to impact her long after her father was arrested. 

She opens up about the night everything changed, the grief of losing multiple family members while trying to rebuild her life, the complicated relationship she has with her father today, and how she's worked to break generational cycles of abuse. Victoria's story is one of resilience, healing, and choosing a different future despite the trauma she endured.

Topics Discussed:

→ Growing Up in a Home Affected by Domestic Violence

→ Living With the Effects of Childhood Trauma

→ Escaping Abuse and Rebuilding a Life

→ Grief, Loss, and Healing Through Family Tragedy

→ Breaking Generational Cycles of Abuse and Addiction

→ Navigating a Complex Relationship With an Abusive Parent

→ Finding Healing by Sharing Her Story

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On This Episode We Cover:

→ 00:00:00 - Introduction

→ 00:01:31 - What was her childhood like growing up in a Mexican household?

→ 00:07:10 - When did she first realize something was wrong at home?

→ 00:12:49 - What was it like growing up with domestic violence?

→ 00:18:03 - Why did her mom stay with her father for so long?

→ 00:24:18 - Why did she feel safest with her family in Mexico?

→ 00:31:12 - How did her family finally escape the abuse?

→ 00:37:58 - What happened after her father was arrested?

→ 00:43:55 - How did her family begin rebuilding their lives?

→ 00:47:07 - How did losing her grandfather change her quinceañera?

→ 00:48:34 - How did her mom turn a quinceañera into buying their first home?

→ 00:50:12 - How did growing up with abuse affect her relationships?

→ 00:54:05 - How did losing her aunt and cousin change her outlook on life?

→ 00:57:14 - Why didn't she want her father at her graduation?

→ 01:00:45 - What did a detective tell her that changed everything?

→ 01:05:32 - How did she begin healing from years of trauma?

→ 01:09:48 - How did healthy relationships change her perspective?

→ 01:14:18 - How did alcohol become a coping mechanism?

→ 01:18:42 - What helped her finally begin letting go of the past?

→ 01:24:09 - Why did she decide to reconnect with her father?

→ 01:31:56 - How did she learn to forgive without forgetting?

→ 01:38:27 - What did she discover after searching her father's room?

→ 01:46:35 - Why was telling the truth so difficult?

→ 01:52:18 - What is her relationship with her father like today?

→ 02:00:45 - What did investigators uncover during the case?

→ 02:05:15 - Why did she decide to tell her family's story?

→ 02:09:02 - How does she protect her peace while keeping her father at arm's length?

→ 02:13:12 - Why did she decide to share her story publicly?

→ 02:16:38 - What does she hope other survivors take away from her story?

Further Listening: 

→ I Lived With Bill Gates After Escaping Abuse

Check Out Victoria: 

→  https://www.instagram.com/ruizandrobledocleaningco/

Resources: 

→ https://www.houseofruthinc.org/

→ https://www.loveisrespect.org/

→ https://www.thehotline.org/

→ https://www.cpedv.org/

→ https://ncadv.org/

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At 17 years old, she believed that if a boyfriend didn't hit her, he was a good boyfriend.

Growing up in a small town, raised in a strict religious household, and surrounded by unhealthy relationships, she had no idea what a healthy partnership was supposed to look like. What started as a high school relationship eventually led to years of heartbreak, single motherhood, difficult co-parenting battles, and the painful realization that the father of her child was never going to become the parent her daughter deserved.

But nothing could have prepared her for the message she received in 2025…a message that revealed her ex had been arrested and charged with multiple felony offenses involving a minor.

Topics Discussed:

→ How do you protect your child from an unsafe parent?

→ When should co-parenting stop?

→ What are signs of parental neglect?

→ How do you win sole custody?

→ How do you heal after betrayal?

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On This Episode We Cover: 

→ 00:00:00 - What was it like growing up in a strict Jehovah's Witness household?

→ 00:02:34 - How did childhood trauma shape her relationships?

→ 00:04:04 - What happened during her high-risk pregnancy?

→ 00:09:02 - What made co-parenting so difficult from the beginning?

→ 00:12:58 - Who did she move in with after leaving her ex? 

→ 00:14:44 - When did neglect become impossible to ignore?

→ 00:17:31 - Why did she pursue sole legal and physical custody?

→ 00:20:14 - How did his parenting get worse over time? 

→ 00:25:42 - How did her current partner become the father figure her daughter needed?

→ 00:31:02 - What message changed her life forever?

→ 00:33:45 - How did she react after learning about her ex's arrest?

→ 00:37:50 - Did she try to speak to him or his family after the news broke? 

→ 00:42:55 - When was the last time she spoke to her ex? 

→ 00:44:39 - How is her daughter handling the news about her father? 

→ 00:46:09 - How will she one day explain the truth to her daughter?

→ 00:48:26 - How is she staying mindful of her mental health? 

→ 00:50:54 - Why did she start sharing her story on TikTok?

→ 00:53:33 - How did going viral help her custody case?

→ 00:55:09 - Did the positive tik tok comments help her heal? 

→ 00:57:06 - How was she able to afford a lawyer? 

→ 00:59:04 - Does she see herself continuing to share her journey?

→ 01:02:21 - Why does she believe more parents need to share stories like this?

→ 01:08:05 - What is she going to do next?

→ 01:09:30 - Why is it scary for people to share their story? 

→ 01:12:15 - When did people start to listen to her story? 

→ 01:15:31 - How did her relationship with her father impact her parenting decisions? 

→ 01:17:36 - What did she do when she first found out? 

→ 01:20:02 - What is it like to struggle with your mental health? 

→ 01:21:53 - What was it like hearing his sentencing in court?

→ 01:25:48 - What did she learn about relationships and abuse? 

Show links:

→ I Lived With Bill Gates After Escaping Abuse

Check Out Ruvyn: 

→ Tik Tok: 

https://www.tiktok.com/@alchemy_with_rue?_r=1&_t=ZT-97HpKvjuX0P

→ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alchemy_with_rue/

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She was only 9 years old when her older brother began molesting her. She kept it a secret until she was 16 years old, believing she was the only victim. After coming forward, she realized that others had been experiencing the abuse too, including her younger brother.

She shares the anger, grief, relief, and unanswered questions that she still carries, as well as how the entire experience impacted her life and those around her.

→ National Sexual Assault Hotline: 800-656-HOPE

→ Get Help Online: https://rainn.org/ 

Topics Discussed:

→ Being molested at 9 and keeping it secret until 16

→ Going to the police and evidence found in the home

→ Living in fear after her brother was bailed out

→ Her brother's suicide and the notes he left behind

→ How this experience shook her faith in religion

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On This Episode We Cover: 

→ 00:00:00 - Introduction 

→ 00:01:23 - When did her stepbrother move in with them? 

→ 00:03:06 - What was their age difference? 

→ 00:04:13 - When and why did her stop? 

→ 00:06:47 - How did she feel before she told her parents? 

→ 00:12:26 - Who else was getting abused?  

→ 00:14:21 - Why were they scared to report abuse? 

→ 00:18:15 - What was her brother saying when contacting them after?  

→ 00:19:20 - When did the warrant go out?

→ 00:20:19 - What did he do after posting bail? 

→ 00:23:24 - Why did she struggle with religion?

→ 00:25:15 - What happened after her brother took his life?

→ 00:26:34 - Who else committed suicide in her family? 

→ 00:27:35 - When did another victim come forward?

→ 00:28:44 - How was her first relationship?

→ 00:32:31 - Who did she have a falling out with?  

→ 00:35:45 - What was it like processing so much grief? 

→ 00:36:21 - How is her relationship with her grandfather? 

→ 00:38:06 - How is EMDR therapy helping her?

→ 00:41:37 - What has helped her the most in her healing journey? 

Further Listening: 

→ https://youtu.be/afqLxNaCauw

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After surviving an accident that should have killed her, Kennedy woke up to a completely different life. In this episode, she shares the reality of losing a leg, recovering from severe injuries, living with a disability, and learning to find confidence, purpose, and joy after experiencing unimaginable trauma.

Topics Discussed:

→ What happened the day Kennedy's life changed forever?

→ How did she survive being thrown into power lines?

→ What is life like after losing a limb?

→ How do you rebuild confidence after a traumatic accident?

→ What helped Kennedy find purpose after tragedy?

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On This Episode We Cover:

→ 00:00:00 - Introduction

→ 00:02:18 - What happened the day of Kennedy's accident?

→ 00:05:46 - How was she thrown into power lines?

→ 00:08:53 - What injuries did she sustain?

→ 00:12:14 - How did first responders save her life?

→ 00:15:38 - What does she remember from the hospital?

→ 00:19:07 - How did she learn she lost her leg?

→ 00:22:31 - What was the hardest part of recovery?

→ 00:25:42 - How did she adjust to life with one leg?

→ 00:29:08 - What was it like learning to walk again?

→ 00:33:12 - How did she cope with losing her independence?

→ 00:37:42 - What was it like returning home after the accident?

→ 00:41:18 - How did strangers react to her disability?

→ 00:44:47 - How did she rebuild her confidence?

→ 00:48:34 - What challenges came with chronic nerve pain?

→ 00:52:06 - How did social media become part of her healing journey?

→ 00:56:22 - Why did she begin sharing her story publicly?

→ 01:00:41 - What has speaking at schools taught her?

→ 01:04:18 - How does social media affect self-worth and comparison?

→ 01:08:27 - How did the accident change her perspective on life?

→ 01:13:54 - How did she learn to accept herself after trauma?

→ 01:17:42 - What is life like with a prosthetic leg?

→ 01:20:45 - How did surgeons restore movement in her arm?

→ 01:24:15 - How did her body heal in ways doctors couldn't explain?

→ 01:26:18 - What is it like having your story recognized by strangers?

→ 01:27:18 - Why does she continue sharing her story?

→ 01:29:24 - What message does she hope people take away from her experience?

Show links:

→ https://youtu.be/Ucy_aRFwr8A?si=1QHznWQpc6_VMkDU

Check Out Kennedy:

→ https://linktr.ee/kickitkenny?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio

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For years, she thought what happened in my home was normal. She was isolated, terrorized, physically abused, and sexually abused by the people who were supposed to protect her. In this episode, she shares the reality of growing up in an environment of intrafamilial child torture, how it shaped her understanding of herself and the world, and the long road toward healing, boundaries, and seeking justice.

Topics Discussed:

→ What is intrafamilial child torture?

→ How does childhood torture affect development?

→ Why do abuse victims stay silent?

→ What are common signs of grooming?

→ How do survivors pursue justice?

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On This Episode We Cover: 

→ 00:00:00 - Introduction→ 00:02:13 - What is intrafamilial child torture?→ 00:04:32 - What was her family dynamic like growing up?→ 00:07:32 - What was her mother like as a parent?→ 00:10:08 - What were her parents like before she was born?→ 00:12:47 - How long did her parents serve in the Air Force?→ 00:13:53 - What is her earliest memory?→ 00:18:09 - How did things change after her second sibling was born?→ 00:19:58 - How did her mother and stepfather's relationship develop?→ 00:24:41 - Did she ever feel close to her mother?→ 00:31:08 - What role did she play within the family?→ 00:33:17 - How did moving across the country change her life?→ 00:36:07 - What forms of abuse did she experience?→ 00:39:01 - How did her stepfather stalk her at school?→ 00:44:16 - What was her stepfather's most disturbing trait?→ 00:48:13 - What happened when she tried to make friends?→ 00:53:10 - Why was bedtime so terrifying?→ 00:55:31 - How did the abuse escalate over time?→ 00:58:15 - What grooming tactics did her abuser use?→ 01:01:19 - How was religion used in her abuse?→ 01:04:39 - How did her fear of water impact her life?→ 01:11:45 - How was she publicly humiliated?→ 01:15:49 - How did her stepfather intensify the abuse?→ 01:19:29 - Why did she stop speaking?→ 01:22:01 - What lasting injuries did her siblings sustain?→ 01:25:45 - How was she isolated from other children?→ 01:28:21 - How did the abuse affect her relationship with sexuality?→ 01:31:09 - When did she begin experiencing hallucinations?→ 01:34:35 - How did self-harm become a coping mechanism?→ 01:37:12 - When did she first realize she was a person of color?→ 01:41:39 - How did she begin rebelling against her parents?→ 01:47:08 - How did she cope with her emotions?→ 01:51:01 - When did she learn her siblings were also being abused?→ 01:59:41 - When did she finally begin making friends?→ 02:08:18 - How did her stepfather's treatment of her change as she got older?→ 02:15:14 - How did she first learn about sex?→ 02:16:56 - What happened when she tried to attend a school dance?→ 02:23:12 - When did her family finally leave her stepfather?→ 02:25:21 - How did self-harm affect her relationship with her mother?→ 02:27:44 - When did she begin losing trust in authority figures?→ 02:29:19 - How did high school shape her experience?→ 02:31:08 - When did she begin therapy, and what did she start working on?→ 02:33:52 - Why did she start dating older men at such a young age?→ 02:35:26 - What led to her being homeschooled?→ 02:39:10 - How did she become addicted to pills?→ 02:42:00 - What helped her connect the dots between her childhood and adulthood?→ 02:43:16 - How did she get involved in cosplay content creation?→ 02:46:12 - What mental health conditions resulted from the abuse?→ 02:50:01 - Why didn't authorities step in?→ 02:51:10 - How did she confront her abuser?→ 02:56:30 - How was her case handled in court?→ 03:00:25 - How did her relationship with her mother change after leaving and the court proceedings?→ 03:14:01 - How did her mother's note impact her?→ 03:16:42 - How has going no-contact with her mother affected her?→ 03:21:03 - How has this experience shaped the person she is today?

Further Listening: 

→ Survivor of Animal R*pe

Check Out Lilli: 

→ https://bio.link/giggleslvt

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