The Imperfects

How do you raise a child whose brain works differently?
This episode is for parents of kids with ADHD. And parents who have ADHD. And people who don’t have a diagnosis, but would consider themselves ‘fast and loose’. And for everyone who knows someone who fits the above criteria.
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Janelle Booker, a psychologist who specialises in ADHD, is BACK, this time, to talk to parents of ADHD kids, and how to parent when you yourself have ADHD.
And also, ADHD-curious Hamish Blake is here too.
We look at the role of dopamine, energy vs stressors, and how to make your mornings less chaotic and more compassionate.
Hamish and Janelle. What a duo.
0:00 – A dynamic duo: Hamish and Janelle
5:58 – The penny drop moment for Hugh
11:35 – ADHD or Fast and Loose?
19:56 – The beauty and beast of ADHD brains
22:38 – The life of an ADHD kid
27:16 – A crash course on dopamine
37:26 – Structure, sleep and school
44:38 – Identity and diagnosis
55:13 – ADHD kids and friendships
1:02:50 – Parenting WITH ADHD
1:16:29 – Finding and supporting regulation
1:23:13 – Slo-pamine
1:28:54 – Let’s talk about the strengths
1:34:35 – Get ‘em outside!
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🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode
Janelle Booker - Living With ADHD - https://bit.ly/4g0CUXK
Hugh’s ADHD…brief - https://bit.ly/4g567Rw
Maria Ruberto - Advancing Despite Adversity - https://bit.ly/4uYFbGS
💻Things to check out
Janelle’s website - https://bit.ly/3QJdO5t
The MEHRIT Centre - https://self-reg.ca/
The ADHD Parent Circle Online Program - https://bit.ly/4g5Anvu
ADHD Women’s Support Group (Perinatal and Early Parenting) - https://bit.ly/3T0BJ0N
Online Q&A with Janelle about ADHD parenting - https://bit.ly/4g5wneu
📖Things to read
ADHD: A Delightful Human Difference. Reframing ADHD for Good, by Janelle Booker and Matthew Johnson - https://bit.ly/4w7scU3
🎧Things to listen to
Hamish & Andy podcast - https://bit.ly/43Z0RHJ
Controlling Your Dopamine For Motivation, Focus & Satisfaction, by Huberman Lab - https://bit.ly/4xPnMCZ
🏆Competitions to enter
Imperfects LIVE at the Balwyn Cinema Gold Class Double Pass - https://bit.ly/3S0E0Zr
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How do you choose who to trust? And how do you show others that you are trustworthy?
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In this Academy of Imperfection, we are joined by Jimmy Wales, co-founder of Wikipedia. No biggie (BIG biggie).
And if there’s one thing Jimmy knows, it's how to garner and imbue the trust of millions.
You’re right in feeling like the general level of trust globally is low right now, but this episode is here to step through Jimmy's 7 rules which will help you build, rebuild, and solidify what is in our innate human behaviour.
Trust is important, and so is this conversation.
0:00 – BIG deal on the internet
8:41 – The heart behind it all
14:57 – Trust is always personal
20:22 – It’s human nature
23:33 – Good guys of the internet
30:35 – Don’t take sides
38:23 – The circle of trust
40:15 – Own up
46:03 – Let’s call them a civil person
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📖 Things to read
The Seven Rules of Trust, by Jimmy Wales - https://bit.ly/4vi83uA
🎧Things to listen to
How to Build (And Rebuild) Trust with Frances Frei - https://bit.ly/4vfMMSl
🏆Competitions to enter
Imperfects LIVE at the Balwyn Cinema Gold Class Double Pass - https://bit.ly/3S0E0Zr
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Do you think you have grit?
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Research has shown that the most common characteristic of elite performers and high achievers is grit.
Understood as the passion and perseverance for very long term goals, Grit is not about natural ability or talent, but rather how we choose to grow.
Your favourite resident psychologist, Dr Emily Musgrove, is back in the studio this week to talk about how you can become a grittier person!
We also look inward, as Josh asks how to maintain grit when it feels like your inner critic is overwhelmingly loud.
Dr Em, so great to have you back.
0:00 – Down with the nonchalance!
5:43 – Talent vs Excellence
10:40 – Interested in finding your interests
16:42 – For the non-naturals in the room
24:22 – Effort is essential for excellence
32:17 – Practicing, kindly
35:01 – Hope is earned
42:06 – The good and bad criticism
53:45 – Encountering pain and discomfort
59:54 – For the greater good
1:06:09 – The dark side of perseverance

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🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode
Dyson Heppell - Whatever It Takes… To Forgive - https://bit.ly/4egeneO
Nedd Brockmann - The Man, The Myth, The Neddgend - https://bit.ly/4egfATo
Dr Emily - Hope - https://bit.ly/43YalTr
Bri Lee - Babies+Climate=Anxiety - https://bit.ly/4xlrYdl
How I Built ‘Dis’ - The Resilience Project Story - https://bit.ly/4aH0dSP
📚Things to read
Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance by Angela Duckworth - https://bit.ly/4vzoe6o
Self-efficacy, by Albert Bandura - https://bit.ly/4fx4KdW
Master of Change, by Brad Stulberg - https://bit.ly/4xCbUEv
Peak: Secrets from the New Science of Expertise, by Anders Ericsson - https://bit.ly/3Q9cIje
📺Things to watch
THE GAP, by Ira Glass - https://bit.ly/4xjkuHL
⭐️Things to donate to
JMB Foundation - https://jmbfoundation.org.au
🏆Competitions to enter
Imperfects LIVE at the Balwyn Cinema Gold Class Double Pass - https://bit.ly/3S0E0Zr
🎟️Things to buy tickets to
Imperfects LIVE at the Balwyn Cinema - https://bit.ly/4vq9JSr
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🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuW
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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.
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At just 16, Ellyse Perry was the youngest person to ever debut for the Australian International Cricket team. 13 days later, Ellyse debuted for the Matildas.
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Arguably one of the greatest athletes of our time, Hugh, Ryan and Josh chat to Ellyse about how she stays so grounded amidst her incredible success, and whether she is able to separate who she is from what she does.
Ellyse chats to the guys about her relationship with her dad (Josh and Hugh furiously take notes), and how both her parents were able to instil a love of trying rather than winning.
And then we get onto social anxiety; what it feels like for Ellyse, why she loves silent retreats, and how she manages it in front of her fans.
Ellyse, you are a literal ray of sunshine. Please come back anytime.
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0:00 – Is THAT AI?
5:05 – Running (and bowling) it’s natural course
11:24 – The feeling of not trying
17:18 – Parents: Be A Good Sport
29:22 – Prepare to be disappointed
40:23 – Bitter sweet World Cup
46:48 – The complexity of ego
1:03:54 – Practicing presence
1:10:30 – Hugh’s advice for big moments
🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode
Pat Cummins - Love, Loss & Life - (1:14:20) - https://bit.ly/3PRku11
WHO ARE YOU? with Dr Emily (+ secret code word) - (17:20) - https://bit.ly/4e1SxeV
📖 Things to read
Perspective by Ellyse Perry - (29:22) - https://bit.ly/3PSMaCI
Ellyse Perry’s children’s books - https://bit.ly/4e1TyDM
Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman - (1:11:40) - https://bit.ly/437yxT9
📺Things to watch
Carl Sagan’s Pale Blue Dot - (1:17:27) - https://bit.ly/3PSPKNa
🏆Competitions to enter
Imperfects LIVE at the Balwyn Cinema Gold Class Double Pass - https://bit.ly/3S0E0Zr
🎟️Things to buy tickets to
Imperfects LIVE at the Balwyn Cinema - https://bit.ly/4vq9JSr
🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz
🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuW
🩵To join our subscriber community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - http://bit.ly/4mqunxu
🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here - http://apple.co/theimperfects
The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.
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We have a BIG announcement.
August 19. Balwyn Cinema. Our first ever live podcast recording. With Hugh, Ryan, Josh, Dr Emily, and you?
ARE YOU AS EXCITED AS WE ARE?!
And you could win your way there! THE ULTIMATE GOLD CLASS DOUBLE PASS includes: 2 x tickets, flights or a limo if you're already in Melbourne, accomodation for the night, popcorn, choc top, sparkling wine and a personal escort to your seats by former Balwyn Cinema employee Hugh van Cuylenburg!
🏆 Enter here NOW - https://www.theimperfects.com.au/balwyn-entry/
Tickets will go live Monday June 8.
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So quick, subscribe here!
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We can’t wait to see you there x
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