I Do, We Do | Discussing Careers, Collabs, Communication, and Challenges

Working with your spouse is not something to take likely. There's seeds that get planted along the way. And a strong foundation can lead to a successful business and marriage. In this episode, we reflect on the seeds that were planted that set us up to want to jump into business together. Music “Sunny” by Bensound.com. What We Talked About in this Episode: Our early influences The example Billy's parents set as volunteer youth ministers Early relationship How we grew from supporting one another to working together Supporting each other in each of our jobs Collabing on various philanthropic projects Every marriage is a working marriage Every (strong) couple is constantly working together to ensure their marriage continues and is healthy

Ego is a dirty little word and we are dedicating an entire episode to it. We recently noticed others disguising their self-serving actions as the acts of a servant leader. We then challenged ourselves to look inward and determine how our egos affect us. In this episode, we discuss the dirty side of our egos, what our ugly egos look like, the ways it affects our relationship, and how it impacts others and our leadership. Plus for some reason, Billy snorts in the middle of this episode. Music “Sunny” by Bensound.com. What We Talked About in this Episode: Examples of ego and self-serving leadership The ways ego interferes with our relationship For Billy, its putting himself into every situation and giving advice or a coaching session when Ashley shares a struggle or issue For Ashley, it's an inability to apologize when in the wrong out of fear of looking like the lesser person Why Billy snorts in the middle of a podcast episode How ego disables us as leaders Our shared “my way or the highway” mentality that possible stems from an egotistical view of being the smartest person in the room Reminding ourselves why we are doing what we do For Ashley, is it for praise? For Billy, is it for power? What reality star reminds Ashley of Billy Hint: They have a massive ego

We talk a lot about goals, action, and achievement on this podcast. But we are human. There are things that hold us back from being our best selves. Rather than pointing the finger at external obstacles, we are looking inwards and sharing the ways we hold ourselves back. There is lots of vulnerability in this episode. Music “Sunny” by Bensound.com. What We Talked About in this Episode: Looking at external factors that gold you back is easy, but it’s hard to look internally The biggest obstacle to every goal is yourself The ways we hold ourselves back For Billy, it is thinking too far in the past He overanalyzes his past actions and their impact on the present For Ashley, it is being too concerned with what others perceive There is an interesting balance of managing credibility and maintaining humility For or us together, it is being too comfortable with one another We fall into our roles and do not challenge ourselves

Back in episode 38, we discussed some changes with our plans for 2019. But just how much did those changes affect our progress on our 2019 goals? In this week's episode, we take you through each of our joint goals & action steps and grade our progress over the last quarter. Music “Sunny” by Bensound.com. What We Talked About in this Episode: Our 2019 started off really strong, but come February we were thrown a major curveballs The effects of this curveball on our work habits Our progress towards our 2019 goals Complete 2 consulting or philanthropy projects Speak together 4 times Build social media presence Grow email list to 1,000 subscribers Stay consistent with our podcast Blog every week Host online course Write book

In this episode of I Do, We Do , we re-do one of most popular episodes. We each share and discuss 10 new dreams and work them out together in order to add to our official combined Dream List. We love dreaming and setting goals. Hopefully hearing us go through this process will show you just how simple it is. What We Talked About in this Episode: We each share and discuss our 10 dreams Ashley’s Dream List See the Northern lights Take a trip with both sets of parents... and pick up the tab Take an immersion trip into a cultural trip (like SBE) Learn Spanish Make a large philanthropic gift somewhere Own property = (i.e.  owning a building downtown, a chunk of land, etc.) Have an impact on education policy; provide a lot of testimony like policy change locally, at the state, or national level Speak to a large group of people (thousands) Make a career change for the challenge Host an international exchange student Billy’s Dream List Live in Center City Philadelphia Go to the Kentucky Derby Live in another country Write a novel (wrote 4 business leadership related books) Star in a musical Own a Philly sports team Make a 6 figure donation Play a basketball game in the Palestra arena in Philadelphia Have a beer with Chase Utley Run for political office “We talk a lot about our problems, we complain a lot about our problems, but rarely will people step up and do something to put a stop that problem. Added to Combined Dream List Take a vacation with both sets parents... and pick up the tab Spend a significant amount of time in another country to culturally immerse ourselves See the northern lights Go to Kentucky Derby Learn Spanish Speak to a large crowd together → turn into a goal Make a 6 figure gift House an international student “Have an open-mind. Be excited for your partner’s dreams. Push them. It’s okay to question them a little bit, but don’t tear them down right away.” Ashley is motivated by Will Smith’s recent YouTube video, because he preaches the importance of how you should do things that scare you so that you’ll grow   “If you can be disciplined and write down everything you truly want to do and discuss it with your partner, it leads to a lot of “ah-hah” moments.” “It’s not about whether you need more of in life, because you should be happy with who you are and where you are. This is about whether or not you want something more and if you want more then you really are searching for growth.”