If you spiral when your partner seems distant… If your brain won’t stop running “what did I do wrong?” loops… If you’re smart, successful, high-achieving, and still struggling with anxious thoughts in love… You are so not alone. And this episode is for you. 🧠💔
We’re unpacking 3 hard truths about overthinking that every anxious-attached woman needs to hear (especially if you’ve tried everything and still find yourself mentally replaying texts, second-guessing convos, or feeling like your thoughts are running you).
We're breaking down:
⭐️ The truth about why you can’t “outthink” fear
⭐️ What your spiral is actually protecting you from
⭐️ Why control isn’t the answer and what is
⭐️ How to retrain your nervous system instead of judging it
Plus, a real-time coaching moment with a Healing Girl Gang member struggling to let go of someone who doesn’t see a future even though she still feels love for him. You’re going to want to hear this. 👀 🌿
Ready to heal the root of your relationship anxiety and stop the mental spiraling once and for all? Inside Healing Girl Gang, we do just that with masterclasses, implementation days, live coaching, and our Overthinking Detox every month.
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What I’m Still Healing (Even as a Relationship Coach)
Ever feel like you're doing all the inner work, listening to every podcast, journaling your heart out and still fall back into the same anxious spirals or overthinking loops? SAME.
In this raw and real episode, I’m pulling back the curtain and sharing what I’m still healing… even as a relationship coach. This episode is for the high-achieving, high-performing girlies who feel confident in their careers but are still spiraling in their relationships.
🎧 We’ll talk about:
✨The real reason your healing “isn’t sticking”
✨Why you might still spiral (even after tons of growth)
✨The sneaky trap of thinking healing means “no more conflict”
✨Why anxious attachment is less about perfection and more like tending a garden
I also share a little life update from my pre-retreat cleanse, what’s been going on with my body lately (ladies, let’s talk hormones + 90s low-rise trauma 🙃), and a deeply personal coaching answer to a listener’s question about giving a partner space without losing your mind.
❤️ If you’ve ever thought “I should be over this by now”… this one’s for you.
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The Hidden Damage Overthinking Does to Your Relationship
If You Overthink Every Text Message… This Episode Is For You! You’re crushing it at work, you're a boss in life, but when it comes to your relationship? You're suddenly spiraling over why he took 6-hours to text you back or asking "are we okay" over and over again...
Then this episode is your soft place to land.
In this episode we’re unpacking the hidden damage overthinking does to your relationships (even when things seem fine on the surface).
I’ll walk you through:
💭 Why overthinking feels productive but keeps you disconnected
🧠 How your brain uses spiraling as a safety strategy
💗 What it actually takes to shift into emotional peace and connection
🏕 Plus: a lil’ story about Blair Witch-level camping chaos (you’ll get it)
👯♀️ Also, shoutout to my Healing Girl Gang - we answer a listener Q about anxious attachment + space in relationships that SO many of you will relate to.
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From Anxious to Secure: Client Transformation with Karuna!
In this powerful episode, I sit down with my client Karuna - science writer, high achiever, and living proof that secure attachment is possible!
We’re talking full transformation: from spiraling over missed texts to feeling calm, confident, and deeply self-trusting in relationships (and beyond). Karuna shares the real, raw moments (crying in the shower, questioning everything, and wondering if the anxiety would ever go away). But through coaching, truth-telling, and data-driven reflection (yes, we get nerdy), she experienced a 75%+ increase in her confidence, mindset, and self-trust AND a 133% decrease in her overthinking.
👀 Plus:
→ What it really feels like to date while anxious
→ Why traditional therapy didn’t quite cut it
→ The sneaky ways we micromanage our partners
→ What shifted when she stopped trying to be "less anxious" and started trusting herself This one is so honest, so hope-giving, and such a beautiful reminder that you’re not broken - you just haven’t been given the right tools yet.
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The Truth About Feeling Like You’re “Too Much” in Your Relationship
Ever feel like you're just too much in your relationship? 😵💫 Like your emotions are too messy, too needy, or too intense so you try to keep them bottled up just to keep the peace?
Yeah… been there.
In this week’s episode we're getting into the real reason you feel like you're too much (and why it’s actually a sign you're ready to heal your anxious attachment for good!) This is for the high-achieving girlies who are secretly spiraling in their relationships. You know, refreshing your texts 12x an hour, over-apologizing for crying, or feeling like vulnerability makes you "bad at love."
In this episode we're talking:
✨ Why your “too muchness” isn’t actually too much
✨ The role of emotional safety in healing anxious attachment
✨ How over-functioning at work translates to under-functioning in your relationships
✨ What your internal rulebook says about love...and how to rewrite it
✨ How to stop self-sabotaging when a secure partner shows up 💭 Plus, I share a personal story from a 1:1 client who broke the cycle (and what made her healing finally click).
This one’s juicy, raw, and real and I can’t wait for you to hear it!
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Listen up Girlies!! Healing isn’t just a (hot girl) walk in the park, it’s a damn journey. The BeThatHealingGirl Podcast is all about busting old school dating myths, breaking down our childhood traumas, unlearning our bad habits and healing your way to your DREAM LIFE! Let’s keep it real and begin to heal because honestly… eff that guy not texting you back, stop worrying about being liked, it’s time to let go of anxious attachment behaviors, start getting comfortable with being vulnerable and know your damn worth! So stop wishing you were her, join the journey and BE that healing girl.