Fruitbowl: An Oral History of Queer Sex

This episode features stories from the frontlines of hookup culture when things really go off the rails. They may even make you hesitate to ever hookup with anyone ever again but I sincerely hope that isn’t the takeaway. Random hookups are just one example of the adventurous nature of queer people and our willingness to take chances and go outside of our comfort zone. And, hey, more often than not, it pays off. But sometimes it doesn’t.

Jason (S1E1) - Balloon Guy; Sam (S1E1) - Queefing; James (S1E2) - A very bad trip; Jerry (S1E4) - The dog dropped dead; Jaelynn (S1E5) - “I sang for Patti LaBelle!”; Tyler (S1E6) - Getting even with the fiancé in the Navy; Gabe (S1E8) - Cat scratch fever; Mikey (S1E10) - The sock guys; Adam (S2E3) - Bloody Mary; Nayland (S2E4) - Hypnosis Guy; Joshua G. (S2E7) - Drag Queens are not always b-killers; Josh (S3E1) - No thrills in Manilla; Mike (S3E19) - “Trust me. It’s in there”.

This episode was edited and hosted by Dave Quantic, Fruitbowl’s creator and producer. Ryan Weadon did the music editing and final mix. Thanks Ryan! 

Support independent queer media by donating to Fruitbowl and help us in our mission to record, archive and share personal stories about queer coming of age. Learn more at www.fruitbowlpodcast.com/donate. 

Promoting a podcast about queer sex is an uphill battle when it comes to social media. Tell your friends about Fruitbowl, rate us on your podcast platform or write a review on Apple Podcast. Every little bit helps. https://linktr.ee/fruitbowlpod. 

Are you a young queer person in crisis or maybe you just need someone to talk to? Learn more about The Trevor Project HERE (https://www.thetrevorproject.org/get-help/).

Fruitbowl’s fruit artwork for Season 5 was created by Nathan Richards.IG: @Paperwombat.

One of my favorite Fruitbowl questions I ask every interviewee is “What’s your best move?” Most people think they’re best move is being intuitive and connecting with their partners - which is important for sure - but for this episode I’ve decided to feature answers that are about one specific sex act. These responses might surprise you or shock you. Or maybe you’ll learn a new move that you’ll be able to try out next time. Regardless, I think there’s something here for everyone.

Adam T. (S3E20) - Breaking in tops who wanna learn to bottom; Steven M. (S4E14) - “I give good Daddy.” Josh (S3E1) - Discovering my inner “Power Top.” Sam (S1E1) - The Move™ for Trans Men who haven’t had bottom surgery; Steven M. (S4E14) - Dom moves; Dave (S4E15) - Spinning the bottom; George (S1E7) - “Everyone loves a good reveal.” Jon (S1E12) - Start shallow and slow then plow (with consent); Donovan (S3E18) - Missionary with kissing; Aditya (S2E2) - Nuzzle him; Alex (S3E10) - Bottom role / top energy; Elliott (S3E11) - topping from the bottom for non-binary; Dan (S3E16) - “Being the best bottom I can be.” Kenny (S4E6) - Sliding down into the splits; Dan (S3E16) - Cleaning out is also “me time.” Carlos (S1E2) - “Straight” men and lacy lingerie; Saira (S3E21) - Oral and pushing boundaries (with consent); Gabe (S1E8) - “Sit back, relax and watch Harry Potter”; Jerry (S1E4) - “I’m a hungry little man.” Salvador (S3E6) - “Be squeaky clean and ready to go.” Mikey (S1E10) - “Lay on your back and I’ll sit down.” Alan (S3E2) - “I’m kneeling on the floor and he’s laying on his back”; Jason (S1E1) - Picking him up, upside down.

This episode was edited and hosted by Dave Quantic, Fruitbowl’s creator and producer. Ryan Weadon did the music editing and final mix. Thanks Ryan! 

Support independent queer media by donating to Fruitbowl and help us in our mission to record, archive and share personal stories about queer coming of age. Learn more at www.fruitbowlpodcast.com/donate. 

Promoting a podcast about queer sex is an uphill battle when it comes to social media. Tell your friends about Fruitbowl, rate us on your podcast platform or write a review on Apple Podcast. Every little bit helps. https://linktr.ee/fruitbowlpod. 

Are you a young queer person in crisis or maybe you just need someone to talk to? Learn more about The Trevor Project HERE (https://www.thetrevorproject.org/get-help/).

Fruitbowl’s fruit artwork for Season 5 was created by Nathan Richards.IG: @Paperwombat.

We all know the script: You meet someone. You date. You eventually say “I love you.” Pretty soon, you’re on the relationship escalator: moving in together, getting married and living the life that everyone dreams of. For generations, this script also assumed monogamy.

But this episode is not about those kinds of relationships. This episode features stories about how we discover our own preferences when it comes to sexual exclusivity and the different ways queer people define relationships.

James (S1E2) - Monogamous at first but never again; Dan (S3E16) - Giving up the relationship escalator; Mike (S3E19) - Sex doesn’t have to be relationship-defining; Aditya (S2E2) - “I’m most against something the day before I do it.”; Anders (S2E6) - A sick cat and solo polyamory; Nayland (S2E4) - Finding a polycule after age 40; Paul (S3E5) - “You want to stay together, right?” “Of course I do.”; Nathan S. (S3E13) - Transactional intimacy & Vulnerability; Lilian (S4E5) - Group intimacy; Mike (S3E19) - “I’ll try anything twice.”; Dan (S3E16) - Empathic Metamorph; Ari (S4E3) - Discovering kink and polyamory after 3 long-term monogamous relationships; Justin (S4E1) - Sex is too big to share with just one person; Mike (S3E19) - the origin of a throuple.
This episode was edited and hosted by Dave Quantic, Fruitbowl’s creator and producer. Ryan Weadon did the music editing and final mix. Thanks Ryan!
Support independent queer media by donating to Fruitbowl and help us in our mission to record, archive and share personal stories about queer coming of age. Learn more at www.fruitbowlpodcast.com/donate.
Promoting a podcast about queer sex is an uphill battle when it comes to social media. Tell your friends about Fruitbowl, rate us on your podcast platform or write a review on Apple Podcast. Every little bit helps. https://linktr.ee/fruitbowlpod.
Are you a young queer person in crisis or maybe you just need someone to talk to? Learn more about The Trevor Project HERE (https://www.thetrevorproject.org/get-help/).
Fruitbowl’s fruit artwork for Season 5 was created by Nathan Richards.IG: @Paperwombat.

Kink is, by nature, taboo. That’s part of its appeal. Paradoxically, kinksters are often better at articulating what they want from sex because their sexual interests fall outside the boundaries of the most common sexual encounters. 

Kinksters are known for blazing trails when it comes to innovative ways to talk about sex and give consent. Consent is built into the process of negotiating together what will and what won’t go down. 

For example, in this episode, Ari describes asking potential partners to fill out a google doc questionnaire before they hookup in an effort to know what it is they want and as an introduction to Ari’s preferences and philosophies about sex.

Other people describe the green light, yellow light, red light system that allows the bottom to communicate their comfort level.

If any of the activities in either of these kink episodes interest you, I encourage you to read up or take classes on best-practices for safety protocol. Educate yourself and make sure you are clear with your partners about boundaries and safety so that every hookup can be mutually enjoyable. And have fun out there!

Debra (S4E8) - Ann Rice inspires a lifetime of exploring kink; Zachery (S4E16) - Boring college sex leads to kink; Dan (S3E16) - Turning a sexual insecurities into a kink assets; Mike (S3E19) - kink explorations in Hong Kong; Josh (S3E1) - Discovering top identity after a break up; Zachery (S4E16) - A remote cabin and hockey bags of toys; Ari (S4E3) - Impact play and aftercare; Alex (S3E10) - “I am a bear, here for your pleasure”; Debra (S4E8) - Kink is playful, fun and funny; Mike (S3E19) - Doms are the screenwriters, Subs are the directors; Ari (S4E3) - Toys help kinksters with disabilities; Debra (S4E8) - Mean mommy and kink as improv; Kenny (S4E6) - Saying “Yes” to kink and armpits; Ari (S4E3) - The kink questionnaire; Zachery (S4E16) - An intro to using your hands.

This episode was edited and hosted by Dave Quantic, Fruitbowl’s creator and producer. Ryan Weadon did the music editing and final mix. Thanks Ryan! 

Support independent queer media by donating to Fruitbowl and help us in our mission to record, archive and share personal stories about queer coming of age. Learn more at www.fruitbowlpodcast.com/donate. 

Promoting a podcast about queer sex is an uphill battle when it comes to social media. Tell your friends about Fruitbowl, rate us on your podcast platform or write a review on Apple Podcast. Every little bit helps. https://linktr.ee/fruitbowlpod. 

Are you a young queer person in crisis or maybe you just need someone to talk to? Learn more about The Trevor Project HERE (https://www.thetrevorproject.org/get-help/).

Fruitbowl’s fruit artwork for Season 5 was created by Nathan Richards.IG: @Paperwombat.

It’s tempting for queer people to want to conceal our kinks in an effort to be more acceptable to straight society. Acting like vanilla heteros is just one way to live in peace during this era of government-sanctioned hostility towards queer people. But bible thumping conservatives don’t really differentiate between kinky and non-kinky queer people. So we may as well let our freak flags fly.

In this first episode of a two part series on kink, we’ll hear a variety of stories about kink discovery, kink education, kink acceptance and first-person descriptions of amazing communities and relationships that grew from a shared interest of kink.

Below is a list of contributors for this episode along with a brief description of their segment and a link to their full length episodes.

Saira (S3E21) - The go-to, kinky sex-pert; Anders (S2E6) - discovering kink classes and communities; Adam (S2E3) - pixxing down my throat; Nayland (S2E4) - “I’m too old to sleep with boring people”; Saira (S3E21) - Impact play at theater camp; Paul (S3E5) - The origin story of Rain City Jacks; Anders (S2E6) - Public play, bathhouses and house parties; Carlos (S1E2) - playing dress up with “straight” guys; Drew (S4E4) - Embracing men’s imperfect bodies; Ryan C. (S3E14) - Describing Gainers; Drew (S4E4) - Big Body at the Eagle; Anders (S2E6) - the importance of aftercare; Saira (S3E21) - breath play and safety; Tyler (S1E6) - old-timey white boxer briefs; Drew (S4E4) - embracing a new body; Saira (S3E21) - the challenges of being an experienced BDSM top.

This episode was edited and hosted by Dave Quantic, Fruitbowl’s creator and producer. Ryan Weadon did the music editing and final mix. Thanks Ryan!

Support independent queer media by donating to Fruitbowl and help us in our mission to record, archive and share personal stories about queer coming of age. Learn more at www.fruitbowlpodcast.com/donate.

Promoting a podcast about queer sex is an uphill battle when it comes to social media. Tell your friends about Fruitbowl, rate us on your podcast platform or write a review on Apple Podcast. Every little bit helps. https://linktr.ee/fruitbowlpod.

Are you a young queer person in crisis or maybe you just need someone to talk to? Learn more about The Trevor Project HERE (https://www.thetrevorproject.org/get-help/).

Fruitbowl’s fruit artwork for Season 5 was created by Nathan Richards.IG: @Paperwombat.