Cultivating H.E.R. Space: Uplifting Conversations for the Black Woman

Content Warning: Discussions of Child Sexual Abuse
This week, Terri and Dr. Dom welcome Dr. Bronwen Carroll, a board-certified pediatric emergency medicine physician at Boston Medical Center, an Assistant Professor of Pediatrics at Boston University Chobanian and Avedisian School of Medicine, and author of We Need To Be Talking About This to Cultivating H.E.R. Space to discuss an uncomfortable but highly necessary conversation about our collective responsibility of keeping children safe.
Dr. Carroll shares how a deeply unsettling event at her child’s school opened a pathway for her to lead her community through a difficult time. In that time, she realized how many parents were ill equipped to have the necessary conversations with their children and the people in their village to keep harm from their front door. Often the signs of child sexual abuse are missed because they are a series of actions that lead up to the events over time, but with the knowledge of what to look out for and the ability to trust one’s gut, we can all begin to keep an eye out for those who wish children harm. And, we can empower them with the correct language to advocate for themselves.
Tune in today for real strategies, tips, and conversation starters for kids so that you and everyone around you know that keeping the children safe, whether they are yours or not, is the top priority for a functioning, healthy, and thriving community.

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Where to find Dr. Bronwen Carroll
Website: Dr. Bronwen Carroll
Book: We Need to Be Talking About This
Instagram: @brownwencarrollmd
LinkedIn: Dr. Bronwen Carroll

Goal Mapping Starter Guide
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
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Research shows there can be healing in humor. Those deep belly laughs are good for the soul.
Lady, when was the last time you really laughed? Not the polite laugh, the real one. When was the last time you used your imagination and took over as head of the fun ministry?
In this week's throwback, Terri and Dom take a break for a lighthearted episode. They tell some corny jokes, share how they connect with their inner child, and talk about happiness: what it looks like, what gets in the way, and how to find it from within.
How do you connect with your inner child? Do one of those things this week, then share your pics and videos with us on social media.
Quote of the Day
“Growing up is acting less childish and being more child-like.” – Lizzo
Takeaways
Happiness and joy come from within, not from a job, a relationship, money, or a vacation
You don’t have to spend money to have fun. Try a living room dance party, a kids’ coloring book, or an old-school board game.
Your homework: do one fun thing that brings out your inner child, and tag us
Resources
Happiness by the Numbers: https://www.happify.com/hd/happiness-by-the-numbers/
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls
Psychology Today
Where to Find Us
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
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Hey lady! We’re heading into the descent of this year. It’s a glorious time to slow down and reflect on all that has unfolded throughout the year. Did you accomplish the goals you set out for yourself? Did you bounce back from the inevitable hiccups that occur as the days go by? Did you have fun? These are the questions that help you assess the year so you can plan for a more fruitful next year.
That’s why Terri and Dr. Dom have a fun conversation about the various ways they fill their cup while simultaneously challenging themselves and exploring their interests. By now you know that hobbies are important to a balanced life but did you know that there might be some deeper work that needs to happen so that you can get to a place where you enjoy the hobbies you have?
Terri and Dr. Dom explore some of the core wounding and early childhood programming that can keep us from tapping into our multidimensionality. And, they affirm the fact that you loving the hobby is enough, you don’t have to girlboss your way into joy.
So, lady, what are some the activities and interests that you’ve put off that you’ve been wanting to do just for you? Don’t forget we’re on YouTube! You can see our lovely faces there and then join us on Patreon for the juicy aftershow!

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Goal Mapping Starter Guide
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount.
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Therapy for Black Girls
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC
Therapy Fund Foundation

Where to find us:
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Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com
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Lady, you are enough, and you can learn to believe it.
In this week's throwback episode, Terri and Dr. Dom talk about the difference between self-esteem and confidence, and how each can shift through different seasons of life. They reflect on childhood bullying, painful self-talk, and the assumptions we make when we compare ourselves to other people.They also share practical ways to strengthen your relationship with yourself: name your strengths, give yourself a more supportive narrative, celebrate small wins, and meet yourself with compassion while you’re still growing. Confidence doesn’t have to mean feeling sure of yourself in every situation. It can start with understanding what confidence looks like for you.
Takeaways
Identify strengths you may be overlooking.
Practice a positive, personal narrative about yourself.
Start small, recognize your wins, and let yourself celebrate them.
Speak to yourself with the compassion you’d offer a friend.
Remember: confidence can vary by situation, and self-worth is a journey.
Quote of the Day
“I need to see my own beauty and to continue to be reminded that I am enough, that I am worthy of love without effort, that I am beautiful, that the texture of my hair and that the shape of my curves, the size of my lips, the color of my skin, and the feelings that I have are all worthy and okay.” — Tracee Ellis Ross
Mentioned
What Is Confidence? And How YOU Can Get More!

3 Confidence Boosters for That Time of the Month

2 Things Every Woman Should Start Doing to Boost Confidence & Self-Esteem

Mental health resources
Melanin and Mental Health · Therapy for Black Girls · Psychology Today · Your insurance provider
This episode is for support and conversation; it is not a substitute for care from a trained mental health professional.
Keep the conversation going
What has your journey toward feeling more confident looked like? Share your story with us.
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Lady! This week, Dr. Dom and Terri expand this year’s theme of community into the members of our community that may be on the margins. Dr. Niki Elliott, a clinical professor and director of the Center for Embodied Equity and Neurodiversity at the University of San Diego’s School of Leadership and Education Sciences and author of Heart-Centered Connections: Seven Essential Skills for Helping Neurodiverse and Marginalized Children Thrive, joins the podcast to discuss the importance of making space for those who are different than us – especially the children in our community.
Loving and caring for children living with neurodivergence requires a level of intentionality and self-awareness that is only now becoming mainstream. Some of the skills needed will call for the parents, caregiver, and community member to dig deep into themselves and address their unmet needs so that they can get out of the way and put the needs of the child first.
Dr. Niki provides a holistic approach to supporting children with neurodivergence needs and the first step is by offering compassion, not only to the child but also to the caregiver. Lady, you’ll want to tune in for actionable strategies you can begin to incorporate today that will shift your perspective in how you show up for the neurodivergent young people in your life…and, maybe even yourself too! Dr. Niki shares why helping young people train their nervous systems for resilience can help them navigate the world more skillfully.
It wasn’t all business this episode! Head over to Patreon for a special Oh You Blatchet! segment with Dr. Niki. She’s spilling the tea about her business and having fun doing so! We’ll catch you there!

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Goal Mapping Starter Guide
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Where to find Dr. Niki Elliott:
Website: Dr. Niki Elliott
Book: Heart-Centered Connections: Seven Essential Skills for Helping Neurodiverse and Marginalized Children Thrive
Instagram: @iam_drniki

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount.
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC
Therapy Fund Foundation

Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com
See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.