Cultivating H.E.R. Space: Uplifting Conversations for the Black Woman

Lady! We talk a lot about loving yourself, and developing a deep relationship with yourself, and building a healthy practice of self-acceptance and devotion to oneself, but we typically keep it PG. Today, Dr. Dom and Terri talk about self-love holistically. Yes, lady, this week Dr. Dom and Terri discuss why deepening your relationship to your body and your pleasure is critical to you walking out in the world feeling fulfilled and full of joy.
Terri offers perspective on how early programming from childhood, family, and religious dogma can block us from knowing ourselves deeply and intimately and Dr. Dom offers guidance to building that relationship with yourself. The fact of the matter is finding pleasure with, by, and for yourself is more than experiencing the juicy satisfaction of an orgasm. It’s helping you cultivate a practice of deep listening to yourself and your desires, and building a baseline of self-trust so that you can achieve the best sex you’ve ever had, even if it’s just you double-clicking your own mouse.
So, lady, tap in so you can hear practical tips on keeping yourself healthy and happy with or without a partner!

Goal Mapping Starter Guide
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
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Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC
Therapy Fund Foundation

Where to find us:
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Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com
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Lady, before you make plans with your boo for the weekend, you may want to listen to this episode. This week Terri and Dom welcome Dr. Joy Cooper back for a much-needed conversation. In this week's throwback episode, the ladies dive into a different topic related to our gynecological health...STDs and STIs. If you remember what you learned in the sex-ed class in high school and the pamphlet in your doctor’s office... get ready because Dr. Joy is providing us with all of the updated terminology and statistics.
Be sure to scroll down to check out the additional resources mentioned in the episode and links to contact Dr. Joy with your personal questions.
Quote of the Day: "I called my best friend to tell her. We made a nickname up for it so we wouldn't have to use the words. We called it clouds." - Anonymous
Takeaways:
Dental Dams Female Condom
Relevant Episode:
S4E3: The Burden of Fibroids for Black Women with Dr. Joy Cooper
Follow Dr. Joy Cooper on Instagram: @thedrjoy
Our Culture Care California residents: Send a DM to Dr. Joy on IG or @ourculturecare
Resources:
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC
Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: herspacepodcast.com
Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com
H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/
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Lady! Take a deep breath because this week Terri and Dr. Dom are about to bring it to you. A major part of growing and expanding is being present enough to be aware and accountable for your ish. That’s right, you can only go as deep with someone as you’ve gone with yourself. That means, are you having honest conversations with yourself that allow you to identify and address the areas where it’s you (not them) that needs to be accountable?
Accountability is not easy to master but once you do, you’ll see real tangible results in the quality of your relationships. Dr. Dom and Terri give you a taste of what a healthy accountability practice looks like with actionable steps you can use in today’s mini episode.

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Goal Mapping Starter Guide
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount.
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC
Therapy Fund Foundation

Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com
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Lady, when was the last time you took a long hard look in the mirror to examine the negativity you may bring to your relationships? We know that doing so requires hard work and often a level of vulnerability that some of us will readily avoid. In today’s throwback episode, Terri and Dom offer us ways to identify when and why we are the toxic ones in our relationships. They also share some of their toxic ways. Within that sharing, the ladies also provide us with concrete steps to take if we are ready for making a change in our behavior patterns. Be sure to tune in and also scroll below for more information on tips and resources mentioned in this episode.
Quote of the Day: "Your toxicity in your relationships with other people is actually an extension of the toxicity in your relationship to yourself. What you have is not an issue with how you relate to others, but a fundamental trauma that is preventing you from being at ease within yourself. That is what you must address." - Brianna Wiest
Takeaways:
Signs it's you:
All of your problems are someone else's fault
You take more than you give
There's so much drama
You have a major superiority complex
You’re a Debbie Downer
You only express love or admiration when you need something.
How to make the change:
Watch how people interact around you
Monitor your own thoughts and actions
Apologize more and seek understanding
Identify the root of the toxicity and what must be done to heal
Will I Ever Be Good Enough?: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers
The Self Compassion Deck
Relevant Past Episodes:
S5E3: A Fresh Perspective on Receiving Feedback and Managing Defensiveness
S5E4: How Your Words Are Creating Your Current Reality (Put Some Respect on Your Name) S3E12: Healing Intergenerational Trauma with Dr. Thema Bryant-Davis
Resources:
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC
Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: herspacepodcast.com
Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com
H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/
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What's it really like growing up as the daughter of an NBA player and the sister of a global icon?
Shaya Bryant — daughter of NBA and European league legend Joe "Jellybean" Bryant, and sister of Kobe Bryant — joins Born To The Game for Part 1 of a deeply personal two-part conversation about family, legacy, identity, and life behind the fame.
In this episode, Shaya opens up about: Growing up in a basketball family and moving overseas to Italy and Switzerland as a kid Learning Italian in months and the culture shock of returning to Philadelphia Her tight-knit bond with Kobe growing up — "thick as thieves," pranks, and no real fights Kobe's early work ethic, 6am gym sessions, and the moment that shaped the Mamba Mentality Her father Joe "Jellybean" Bryant as a present, playful dad and the lessons he instilled Navigating fame, privacy, and protecting her peace from public perception Motherhood, grief, and carrying her family's legacy forward on her own terms
This is Part 1 of 2 — Part 2 drops next week with even more of Shaya's story.
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