Cultivating H.E.R. Space: Uplifting Conversations for the Black Woman

Hey eldest sisters! This week, this one is for you. This week’s episode is a love song to the eldest daughters and granddaughters, the backbone of society, whose stories are often overlooked and ignored because their silent labor is the underpinning that keeps modern family life moving forward and families together. Dr. Dom and Terri share their experiences of being the eldest daughter and oldest sister in their immediate family and how it has shaped their worldviews and ways of being – for better or for worse.
While these experiences are not a monolith, there is enough evidence that this is a growing segment of the population that are expected to care for everyone around them at the expense of their own career growth and health. So what can you do if you find yourself in a position where there is an implicit expectation that you will be the strong one?
Tune in if you are fed up with that role so that you can build a solid toolkit to shift yourself back into the driver’s seat of your life. Lady, this particular journey takes time so pack your patience and carve out intentional time so you can make a realistic plan that works for you. Head over to the Cultivating H.E.R. Space shop to pick up a journal as your companion to unpack this deep work you’re doing and while you’re at it grab a latte mug to sip on something that will calm your nervous system (you’ll find out why this is important in the episode).
Wishing you lots of a love and lighter load on your plate, lady!

Quote of the Day:
"The eldest daughter is the prototypical parentified child. Who’s tucking her in? Who’s feeding her? Who’s nurturing her? Who’s taking care of her?”
– Dr. Mariel Buqué

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Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount.
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC
Therapy Fund Foundation

Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com
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Hey lady! In this throwback episode we're revisiting our conversation with attorney, career advisor, and storyteller, Ashley Menzies Babatunde. Terri and Dr. Dom talk to Ashley about the power of the pause, when certain seasons slow you down. We discuss the gems the valley seasons reveal, and the pivots that come out of it to find and strengthen your most authentic self. Ashley shares her inspirational story of advocating for herself after a major life event showed her the beauty in her present, albeit difficult, circumstance so that she could create a life rich with meaning. Her decision to embrace where her life took her next with curiosity and wonder opened possibilities that were better than she could have imagined. If you've been feeling stuck, or your path has not been what you quite planned, this episode is for you. Join Dr. Dom and Terri for a motivating conversation about finding the blessings and beauty in your life stage.

Quote of the Day:
"The pauses in life taught me how to live." – Ashley Menzies Babatunde

Where to find Ashley Menzies Babatunde:
Website: ashleymenzies.com
Podcast: No Straight Path
Instagram: @ms_menzies
Instagram: @no_straight_path
LinkedIn: Ashley Menzies

Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com
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Hey lady! You might have noticed a theme this year. As we navigate our way through this oppressive regime we are making sure that taking time to check in with ourselves is high on our priority list. That’s why this week, Dr. Dom and Terri have a gentle conversation about why it’s important to assess your mental health from time to time. Sometimes in the day-to-day of life it’s easy to overlook signs of depression, struggle, overwhelm, and self-neglect. However, as the pressure to perform during this perilous time increases knowing where you stand will be important to your self-preservation.
Black people have a fight ahead of us as we work to claw back our rights. Taking good care of your mental and emotional health will make sure that not only are you fit for the fight but also that you have a good quality of life full of meaning, joy, and pleasure. So, tap into this episode and let it be a guide to improving your mental health and building a toolkit of care and support to keep you whole and healthy.
If you need extra support, be sure to book a consultation with Dr. Dom. She can provide a container of support and meet you where you are as you strengthen your ability to care for yourself.

Quote of the Day:
“Functioning is not the same as being well.”
– Unknown

Goal Mapping Starter Guide
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount.
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC
Therapy Fund Foundation

Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com
See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In today's #TBT episode we talk about how we respond when we want to speak up for ourself and others. Dr. Dom & Terri share their experiences in tricky moments and opportunities to speak up, and ways we can reason and grow through them.

Quote of the Day:
"You decide every moment of every day who you are and what you believe in. You get a second chance every second." - Unknown

Register here for the Vibrate Higher Empowerment Workshop!
Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com

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Hey lady! You might have noticed that building and maintaining community is a big theme for many of us right now. Many of us are moving past the superficial energy of posting your highlight reel for empty calorie validation from strangers and seeking real nourishment for the soul. But, how do you find that in a world where connection is based off swipes and quick judgments?
You already know Dr. Dom and Terri got you! This week, the dynamic duo guide you through questions you can ask your chosen family so that you can deepen your bond and get to know each other better in healthy, meaningful ways. Real relationships take work and while building intimacy can happen through common interests and shared activities, the best way to get to know someone is still through good conversation.
Do you feel a little rusty? Tuck this episode away as your handy prompt repository for questions that will bring you closer. We want to hear from you! Holler at us on Instagram. What question did you find most interesting? Did you ask yourself any?
If you’re looking to build your community, online and in-person, join us in Patreon. Not only do we have a warm community of like-hearted women but we plan live events for us to gather and show love. You never know, your new best may be behind the Patreon wall. See you there!

Quote of the Day:
"Community is the place where connections are made, relationships are built, and support is given."
– Unknown

Goal Mapping Starter Guide
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

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Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount.
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC
Therapy Fund Foundation

Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com
See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.