Cultivating H.E.R. Space: Uplifting Conversations for the Black Woman

Hey lady! Storytime! This week, Terri recounts how one fun weekend turned into an important lesson on the power of perspective. Dr. Dom offers sage guidance in transforming difficult situations into opportunities to build your capacity and resilience.
The key to growth is continuing to adapt to life’s ever present challenges and having the tools to be resilient in the face of adversity – even when the adversity brings a chuckle. Let these possibilities strengthen your resolve to press forward in the direction of your goals. Keep the framework Dr. Dom and Terri in your back pocket so when tough time roll around you can roll right with them. Push through, lady! Your dreams depend on it!

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Goal Mapping Starter Guide
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount.
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Therapy for Black Girls
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC
Therapy Fund Foundation

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Assertiveness. When do you use your voice? How do you use your voice? What does it look like when you assert yourself? Where did you learn to use your voice? The answers to each of those questions gives you insight into how you express assertiveness. If you have listened to previous episodes on boundary setting and confidence then this throwback Thursday's topic will add to your arsenal of being a woman living in her authenticity. Terri and Dom explore examples of assertiveness and also distinguish assertiveness from aggressiveness, passiveness, and passive-aggressiveness. Asserting yourself may require risk but it will benefit you and everyone around you in the end. Be sure to scroll down to learn how to navigate situations that require assertiveness.
Quote of the Day: "I think of the next girl who is going to come along who looks like me, and I hope, 'Maybe, just maybe, my voice will help her.'" -Serena Williams
Helpful resources mentioned:
Tips to improve assertiveness identify the behavior; the impact; your feelings and what you want changed use "I" statements speak loudly and clearly avoiding pauses and "ums" own what you need aim for positivity and collaboration https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a28209579/serena-williams-us-open-2018-essay/
From Psychology Today: "Assertiveness is a social skill that relies heavily on effective communication, while simultaneously respecting the thoughts and wishes of others. People who are assertive clearly and respectfully communicate their wants, needs, positions, and boundaries to others. There’s no question of where they stand, no matter what the topic. From a cognitive standpoint, assertive people experience fewer anxious thoughts, even when under stress. From a behavioral standpoint, assertive people are firm without being rude. They react to positive and negative emotions without becoming aggressive or resorting to passivity. Individuals who are high in assertiveness don't shy away from defending their points of view or goals, or from trying to influence others to see their side. They are also open to both compliments and constructive criticism. Assertiveness is often associated with higher self-esteem and confidence.
People can improve their assertiveness through practical exercises and experience." https://www.psychologicalscience.org/news/releases/black-women-leaders-approved-for-assertiveness-in-the-workplace.html
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Before the Target collabs, before the McCormick's deal, before millions of people called her their favorite auntie on the internet,Tabitha Brown was sitting in the dark, convinced she was dying.
In one of the most honest conversations Happy With Tammi Mac has ever produced, host Tammi Mac creates a sacred space for Tabitha Brown to go all the way back. Back to 2016 and 2017, when she spent over a year battling a mysterious autoimmune illness that left doctors baffled and left Tabitha terrified. With a headache that lasted one year and seven months, vision loss, chronic pain, and failing strength in her hands, Tabitha's mind went to the place she feared most, her mother. Her mother, who died of ALS at just 51. Her mother, who was told by doctors that it was all in her head for 11 months, before being given six months to two years to live.
Tabitha saw the mirror. And she prepared herself for the end.
What saved her wasn't another doctor's appointment. It was a documentary. A conversation with her daughter. A decision to go vegan for 30 days. And on Day 10, the headache that had been her constant companion for nearly two years was gone.
This episode moves through all three segments of Happy With Tammi Mac: The Dark Journey, Tabitha's health crisis and grief; The Turning Point, the plant-based decision that changed her biology and her destiny; and Finding Happy, what it means to look back at the viral car video that launched everything and choose gratitude over forgetting.
Tammi Mac also shares her own story, the pandemic depression that inspired this entire podcast, reminding us that sometimes the most honest thing you can say is "I did this for me."
This episode is for anyone who has been dismissed by a doctor. For anyone who has watched someone they love die too young. For anyone who has sat in the silence of a body that won't cooperate and a mind that has started saying goodbye. And for anyone who needs proof that a turning point is still possible.
Happiness has been a hard word to come by, but it will exist again.
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Hosted by Tammi Mac, known and loved from KJLH Radio.
Coming up on future episodes: MC Lyte, Kelly Price, James Wright Chanel, and Judge Mathis.
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Hey lady! Have you ever had that sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach that you are lacking something? That nagging feeling can cause great discomfort because it’s often considered a dirty word in polite society. The thing is that nagging feeling, often known as envy, while uncomfortable is completely normal. Once you know how to manage this emotion and turn it into fuel for creating the life you want.
Dr. Dom and Terri offer a few insightful reflection questions to help you step out of any shame that may bubble up when feelings of envy arise. Lady, don’t let envy block you from getting your own shine. Let it be the match that lights the flame within you to go for yours!

Goal Mapping Starter Guide
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount.
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Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC
Therapy Fund Foundation

Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com
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Homegirl at the office stays winning. Your bestie in another city is getting closer to someone else. Which one is envy? Which one is jealousy? What other feelings come up? Often times they are used interchangeably and incorrect. Terri and Dom help us clarify what each term means. Then they walk us through multiple real-life examples to help us parse out what each word looks like when played out. What are the questions we need to ask to navigate each situation? Scroll down for some helpful tips. By the way, shout out to Meg Thee Stallion for those bomb-ass knees :)
Quote of the Day: “True confidence has no room for jealousy or envy; when you know you are great there is no reason to hate.” -unknown
Takeaways:
Acknowledge the feelings
Evaluate the situation with an open mind
Identify the roadblocks (internal and/or external)
What can you control?
Remember to practice self-compassion
Kill it with kindness
Get support from community and/or therapy
Resources:
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: herspacepodcast.com
Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com
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