Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell

Has your sex life become a little too predictable?
In this episode, Dan shares 7 simple principles to help couples break out of routine, deepen connection, and bring more fun, playfulness, and excitement into their intimate relationship. From creating an intimacy menu to exploring new experiences together, you'll learn practical ways to stop having boring sex and start creating more meaningful connection.

Resources from the episode:
Awesome date night and intimacy apps
Sexploration List
International Lovemaking Day Bedroom Boxes
Christian Couples Improving Sex & Intimacy Facebook Group
Get Your Marriage On Coaching Program
Intimacy Menu
Products we love:
Evree Massage Cream and podcast episode
LavaLube
COCONU
EveryLove Intimates

Most people think being a good spouse means being selfless, accommodating, and easygoing.
But what if those same habits are quietly creating resentment, frustration, and disconnection?
In this episode, we're joined by Stu Murray, a men's leadership coach, to discuss the "Nice Guy Pattern"—the tendency to suppress your own needs, avoid conflict, and hope your partner will magically figure out what you want.
Together we explore:
• What covert contracts are and why they create resentment
• Why people-pleasing often leads to less intimacy, not more
• How unspoken expectations damage emotional safety
• The connection between honesty, desire, and attraction
• Why many men struggle to express what they really want
• Practical steps to stop self-abandoning and start showing up authentically
If you've ever thought, "After everything I do, why don't I feel appreciated?" this episode is for you.
You'll learn how greater honesty, responsibility, and authenticity can create stronger connection—and often more intimacy—in your marriage.
Episode Resources
Come cruise with us this fall!
Don't miss out on the International Lovemaking Day Challenge going on now in the Intimately Us app!
Find Stu on Youtube (https://www.youtube.com/@iamstumurray) and Instagram: @iamstumurray
 
Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Better sex isn't just about what happens in the bedroom.
In this episode, Dan sits down with Zach Watson to unpack the hidden emotional and mental work happening inside many marriages — and why it has such a powerful impact on intimacy.
They talk about invisible labor, mental load, emotional safety, and the loneliness that can build when one partner feels like they're carrying everything alone. Zach shares practical ways couples can better share responsibility, communicate more clearly, and create more trust and partnership at home.
You'll also hear:
Why "helping" can sometimes create more frustration
The difference between doing a task and owning it
How emotional labor affects desire and connection
Why empathy matters so much in sexual intimacy
Simple ways couples can work more like teammates
This episode is honest, practical, and full of moments that will help you better understand your partner — and yourself.
Episode Resources 
Thriving Together: How to Share the Mental Load in Marriage  (GYMO Guide)
Get ready for International Lovemaking Day with Intimately Us!
Come cruise with us!
Zach's Free Mental Load Basics Skool Community
Find Zach on Socials: @zachmentalloadcoach (Instagram) and @zachthinkshare (Facebook)
 
Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

In this final session with Peggy and Steve, things feel different. 
The wall Peggy used to feel during intimacy—the fear, tension, and resistance that would suddenly shut everything down—is starting to soften.
And for the first time in a long time, both of them are beginning to relax.
In this episode, you'll hear Peggy and Steve reflect on the progress they've made over the last few months, what still feels difficult, and what they're continuing to work through together.
You'll also hear conversations about:
learning to let go a little more
why sex can start to feel overly serious
the role playfulness has in intimacy
stress, emotional overload, and connection
and what it means to feel truly free with your spouse
This episode is a hopeful ending to a deeply honest coaching journey—and a reminder that growth usually happens gradually, one small shift at a time.
If you'd like some guidance to shift your marriage, check out our coaching options at getyourmarriageon.com/program or getyourmarriageon.com/work-with-me/

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In this fourth session with Peggy and Steve, something important finally clicks.
Peggy begins recognizing the exact moment her brain hits the "kill switch" during intimacy.
Not consciously. Not intentionally. Just years of conditioning kicking in automatically.
As the conversation unfolds, Peggy starts connecting the dots between anxiety, "good girl" conditioning, fear, pleasure, and the unconscious belief that enjoying too much might somehow be wrong.
In this episode, you'll hear:
Why some people unconsciously shut pleasure down
What happens when your brain treats pleasure like danger
How anxiety can quietly disconnect you from your body
Why rewiring sexual patterns takes more than just "thinking differently"
You'll also hear one of the biggest mindset shifts of the series so far.
This episode is about learning how to stop fighting yourself in intimate moments, and starting to trust that pleasure, connection, and desire were never the enemy.