Hurt to Healing

In this Healing 101, Bryony Gordon unpacks people pleasing as a learned survival response rooted in fear and control, rather than simply being “nice.” She explores how trying to manage others’ emotions can lead to burnout, resentment, and a loss of self, and why surrendering control can feel both uncomfortable and deeply freeing. The conversation highlights the importance of boundaries—not as selfish, but as essential protection—and challenges societal expectations around being agreeable, especially for women. With gentle, practical insights on noticing these patterns and reconnecting with yourself, this episode is a powerful reminder that you deserve to take up space, choose where your energy goes, and put yourself first without guilt.

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Instagram: @bryonygordon
Books: https://www.headline.co.uk/contributor/bryony-gordon/
Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-life-of-bryony/id1763828544
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In this episode, I am joined by Lucy Foulkes, psychologist, researcher, and author specialising in youth mental health, to unpack what we really mean by “mental health.” We explore the difference between everyday emotional experiences and clinical conditions, and why feeling anxious or low doesn’t necessarily mean something is wrong. Lucy explains how mental health problems are defined by their severity, duration, and impact on daily life, and why adolescence is such a vulnerable period shaped by brain development, social pressures, and major transitions.

We also dive into the bigger picture, from the impact of poverty and peer dynamics to the growing demand for support that far outweighs available resources. Lucy offers a thoughtful perspective on the current mental health conversation—challenging over-diagnosis, questioning whether opening up is always the answer, and exploring how therapy, education, and even AI could play a role in better supporting those who need it most.

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Website: https://www.lucyfoulkes.co.uk/
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In today’s Healing 101 episode, I’m joined by TJ Power to talk about the “DOSE framework” - dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin, and endorphins - and how these four chemicals quietly shape how we feel day to day. We get into the subtle signs your brain might be feeling a little depleted, why you might be struggling with focus or motivation, and some really simple, gentle shifts you can make - like how you start your morning or finding moments of flow - to begin feeling more like yourself again.

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Website: https://tjpower.co.uk/
Instagram: @tjpower
Buy his book: https://thedoseeffect.co.uk/
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In this week’s episode, I sit down with psychotherapist Joshua Fletcher (known to many as "Anxiety Josh") to dismantle the modern "optimisation era." Josh explains why our obsession with instant fixes - from 5:00 AM ice baths to AI therapy bots - is actually fuelling our anxiety by eroding our ability to tolerate discomfort. He challenges us to stop "running away" from our feelings and instead build the emotional scaffolding needed to find peace in the stillness.

Drawing from his book Same Time Next Week, Josh pulls back the curtain on the therapy room, sharing his own experiences with imposter syndrome and the "round table" of internal voices that shape our reality. We explore the "death of curiosity," the power of being truly seen, and why the most compassionate thing you can do for a racing mind is often the one thing we fear most: absolutely nothing.

Find Josh:
Buy his new book 'Same Time Next Week': https://amzn.eu/d/0gBZKClA
Website: School of Anxiety
Instagram: @anxietyjosh
LinkedIn: Joshua Fletcher
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Podcast: Disordered
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In this Healing 101 episode, historian David Courtwright explains how modern companies have "hacked" our brains to turn everyday pleasures into hard-to-break habits. He introduces the idea of Limbic Capitalism, a global system where things like social media, fast food, and addictive drugs are specifically designed to hijack the brain’s reward centre. David explores why digital technology is the new frontier of addiction - making "hits" of dopamine cheaper and more accessible than ever - and offers a hopeful perspective on recovery, reminding us that it often takes multiple attempts to finally reclaim our focus and freedom.

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Website: https://davidcourtwright.domains.unf.edu/
Buy his book 'The Age of Addiction': https://amzn.eu/d/01vG1z76
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