No Guilt Mom | Overcoming Mom Guilt, Mental Load & Parenting Tips for Moms

If you're carrying the mental load and wondering how to stop being the default parent, this episode is for you.

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Nobody sits down and decides to become the default parent. It happens one "I'll just grab it" at a time. In this solo episode, I share the seven rules I follow so I'm not the default parent in my house, from the "go ask Dad" rule I started when my kids were little to the overflowing trash I refuse to take out.

In this episode, you'll learn:

Why being the default parent is a set of habits, not a personality trait

How to end the "I do everything" fight by seeing the real split in your house

Why doing your partner's jobs to be nice backfires, and what to say instead

The simple "go ask Dad" rule that retrains your kids

Why "it's just easier if I do it" is a trap, and how to let your partner do it his way

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Home Responsibility Calculator (free): see the real split in your house

Skylight Calendar: $30 off the 15-inch calendar #ad #sponsored

The Fair Play Deck by Eve Rodsky

The Best Mom is a Happy Mom by JoAnn Crohn

No Guilt Mom on Instagram: come tell me your calculator results

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New here? Start with our Start Here playlist — five episodes that will change how you think about motherhood.

If you've ever struggled with people pleasing and wondered why you put everyone else's needs before your own even when it's costing you, this episode is for you.

Psychotherapist Jessica Anne Pressler joins JoAnn to talk about self-abandonment, the pattern of putting everyone else first until you disappear from your own life. They dig into where it starts in childhood, how it shows up as people pleasing and trauma bonding in adult relationships, and how to finally start trusting yourself again.

In this episode, you'll learn:

What self-abandonment actually means, and why most moms do it without realizing it

Why your kids learn more from watching you take care of yourself than from anything you tell them

What a trauma bond is and why it can feel like an addiction

The gray rock method for dealing with someone who wants a reaction from you

A simple script for talking back to the inner voice that keeps you stuck (Jessica calls it "the traitor within")

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Jessica Anne Pressler on Instagram

Jessica's novel, Traitor Within, out now

The Happy Home Ladder

No Guilt Mom Inner Circle

The Happy Mom Reset (free class)

The Best Mom is a Happy Mom (JoAnn's book)

No Guilt Mom podcast page

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If gentle parenting has you wanting to back your daughter up without shaking things up at school, but you're stuck on why she keeps getting dress coded in the first place, this episode is for you.

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JoAnn goes solo this week on a topic she's been sitting with since her own middle school uniform battles: dress codes, and why they land so much harder on girls than boys. She pulls the research on where dress codes actually came from, what "self-objectification" does to a girl's brain and test scores, and ties it directly into this week's Sydney Sweeney ad backlash. Then she gives you the exact conversation to have with your daughter the next time she comes home dress coded.

In this episode, you'll learn:

Why dress codes were never really about safety, and where they actually came from

The research showing it's girls' bodies, not their behavior, that dress codes target

What "self-objectification" is, and how it can measurably lower a girl's test performance

Exactly what to say (and not say) when your daughter comes home dress coded

How to help her decide whether to comply or push back, in her own words

Resources mentioned in this episode:

The Happy Home Ladder — our family cooperation system

The Best Mom is a Happy Mom by JoAnn Crohn

No Guilt Mom website

No Guilt Mom on Instagram

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If you've ever dealt with mom burnout and wondered why you can't stop giving until there's nothing left, this episode is for you.

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Therapist Dr. Julie Merriman joins the podcast to talk about why so many moms quietly minimize themselves until they're running on empty, and why the idea that "you can't give from an empty cup" is actually a myth, because we do it all the time. We get into little T trauma, why your worth might be tied to productivity, and Julie's five-step framework for coming back to yourself after burnout.

In this episode, you'll learn:

Why moms give until they hit "empty cup" burnout, and why the belief that you can't give from empty isn't true

What "little T trauma" is and why almost everyone has some, even without a dramatic backstory

Julie's five-step framework for recovering from burnout: reflection, a nervous system inventory, a reappearance checklist, a self-return ritual, and daily affirmations

A simple full-body-scan technique to check in with your nervous system in under a minute

Why tying your worth to productivity makes it impossible to just sit and relax

Resources mentioned in this episode:

The Happy Home Ladder — No Guilt Mom's family cooperation system

Dr. Julie Merriman's website

Julie's free Desire Reset Guide

The Best Mom is a Happy Mom by JoAnn Crohn

No Guilt Mom Podcast page

No Guilt Mom on Instagram

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If you've ever felt the mental load of work follow you home and wondered why you can't turn your brain off the second you walk in the door, this episode is for you.

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You close the laptop, but your brain doesn't get the memo. In this episode, JoAnn breaks down the real research on why work stress follows you home (and why home stress follows you to work), and gives you three small, doable rituals you can try tonight to actually make the switch.

In this episode, you'll learn:

Why "boundary theory" research says your brain needs an actual ritual to switch roles, not just willpower

Why remote and hybrid workers report 20% higher burnout, and what's missing from the workday that used to fix this for free

What a real diary study of 166 employees found is the single strongest predictor of recovering from a stressful workday

Three simple scripts you can use tonight: naming your feeling, noticing and asking what's up, and picking your family's one thing

How the Happy Home Ladder turns these skills into something your whole family builds together, not just you

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Get the Happy Home Ladder

When Work Stress Hijacks Your Home: Stop Ruminating and Get Your Patience Back with Guy Winch

Why You Negotiate Better at Work Than at Home (And How to Change That) with Attia Qureshi

The Charisma Myth by Olivia Fox Cabane

No Guilt Mom Inner Circle

The Best Mom is a Happy Mom (book)

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