Lowkey Chaotic

In this episode, I talk about endings that don’t happen on your terms, how women are conditioned to cling to the “good guy” in dating culture even when he doesn’t fulfill all their desires, and the nervous system - how it bonds to patterns, why it doesn’t care about timelines or logic, and how it shapes the way we experience loss.

Situationships suck. Good people exist. Clarity is care. Endings are okay. And I broke my foot yesterday.

Modern dating feels tense because women and men are responding to completely different realities.This episode unpacks that divide - the patterns women grow up noticing, the stakes we carry into adulthood, and the context men were never taught to see. Not to blame anyone, but to finally make the gap visible.

I lost myself in my ex. Everything he did or didn’t do determined how I felt, who I was, and how I showed up. And now that I’ve started dating again, I’ve realized how scared I am of slipping back into that version of myself.In this episode, I talk about how past patterns show up in new situations, how your nervous system remembers things you think you’ve moved on from, and what it looks like to try to love someone without abandoning yourself again.

In this episode, I talk about something I genuinely didn’t think was possible for me: having casual sex and actually feeling normal afterwards. No crashing out, no obsessing, no over-analyzing. I get into why this happened, how our nervous systems form patterns around intimacy, and what childhood, attachment, and familiar pain have to do with it. If you’re someone who usually panics after intimacy, this episode will make a lot of sense.