The Psychology of Relationships

We’re often taught that being in a relationship is the goal—but what if partnership isn’t something we need in order to have a fulfilling life? Julie & Yue are joined by Simone Milasas and Brendon Watt, co-authors of Relationship.: Are You Sure You Want One?, to challenge the idea that being partnered is inherently better than being single. After consciously uncoupling from their own long-term relationship, they share what they learned about choosing partnership, creating a meaningful life independently, and redefining what a successful relationship can look like.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why we’re so conditioned to believe we need a relationship
How to tell the difference between wanting a partner and needing one
Why a fulfilling life doesn’t have to revolve around romantic partnership
What makes a relationship genuinely enhance your life
How to choose relationships from desire and intention rather than fear or expectation

To learn more about Simone Milasas and Brendon Watt, visit www.relationshipsdonedifferent.com

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Attachment styles have become one of the most popular ways to understand relationships—but they’re often reduced to a few labels on social media. Julie & Yue are joined by licensed marriage and family therapist Lauren Korshak to take a closer look at what attachment theory actually tells us about love, closeness, and security. Rather than treating attachment as a fixed identity, we explore how our patterns develop, why insecurity can show up even in secure relationships, and how awareness can help us create more compassionate and connected partnerships.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
What attachment theory actually tells us about relationships
How anxious and avoidant patterns develop
Why even securely attached people can feel insecure
How attachment patterns can change over time
How to use attachment as a tool rather than a label

To learn more about Lauren Korshak, visit https://www.lovewellsf.com/

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Money can create some of the biggest tensions in a relationship—but the conflict usually isn’t just about money. It’s about what money represents: security, freedom, control, priorities, and the future you want to build together. Julie & Yue are joined by Joe Gavazza of Gavazza Wealth Management to explore what financial compatibility really looks like and how couples can talk about spending, saving, debt, and long-term goals before they become sources of conflict.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
What financial compatibility actually means beyond income
How your money mindset can shape your relationship
How to talk about spending, saving, and debt
Why financial transparency can strengthen trust
How couples can create greater alignment around their future

To learn more about Joe Gavazza, visit www.gavazza.com.

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Sometimes the things we do to protect ourselves from getting hurt are the very things that create distance in our relationships. Julie & Yue are joined by psychologist and relationship researcher Dr. Raquel Peel to explore why we sometimes sabotage healthy relationships, from pulling away when things get serious to criticizing, becoming defensive, or shutting down when we feel vulnerable. Together, they unpack the Four Horsemen and how greater self-awareness can help us respond differently before protective patterns become relationship-ending habits.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why we sometimes sabotage relationships that are actually healthy
How fear and self-protection can create relationship problems
What the Four Horsemen reveal about relationship conflict
How to recognize your own self-sabotaging patterns
Ways to respond with more vulnerability and intention

To learn more about Dr. Raquel Peel, visit https://www.raquelpeel.com

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Most people enter relationships without ever being taught the skills needed to sustain one. Communication, conflict, intimacy, and emotional responsibility are often learned through trial and error instead of intention. Dr. Alexandra Solomon—licensed therapist, professor at Northwestern University, and author of Loving Bravely and Taking Sexy Back—joins Julie & Yue to explore the lessons behind her popular course Marriage 101. Rather than focusing on finding “the one,” her work centers on becoming “the one” through self-awareness, emotional growth, and relational skill-building.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why self-awareness is essential for healthy relationships
How family history shapes the way we love
Why conflict is something to work through, not avoid
The role emotional and sexual intimacy play in long-term love
What differentiation means and why it matters in relationships

To learn more about Dr. Alexandra Solomon, follow her @dralexandrasolomon and visit dralexandrasolomon.com

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