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In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman speaks with Candace Sjogren about the intricacies and common mistakes involved in polyamory, as addressed in Sjogren’s book, 'Polyagony'. They discuss personal experiences, motivations behind polyamorous relationships, and essential strategies for maintaining healthy open relationships. The conversation touches on setting boundaries, ethical non-monogamy, agreements, and navigating the dynamics of multiple partners, including poly parenting. Sjogren emphasizes the importance of communication, consent, and the continuous evolution of relationship agreements.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast
00:49 Guest Introduction: Candace Sjogren on Polyamory
01:25 Candace's Personal Journey with Polyamory
02:13 Challenges and Advocacy in Polyamorous Relationships
03:34 The Rise of Ethical Non-Monogamy
07:09 Defining Ethical Non-Monogamy
08:33 Common Mistakes in Open Relationships
12:42 Forming Agreements in Open Relationships
16:43 Exploring Hopes and Fears in Relationships
16:59 The Importance of Moving at the Slowest Pace
17:30 Maintaining Relationship Cadence
18:02 Invitation to Share Personal Stories
18:31 Dealing with Stagnation in Relationships
20:19 Understanding Consent Within and Outside the Couple
22:26 Navigating the Role of a Hinge in Polyamory
25:04 Challenges of Poly Parenting
28:31 Group Dynamics in Polyamory
30:12 Conclusion and Resources

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Bio:
Candace Sjogren is a lawyer, entrepreneur, and transformational leader whose work spans finance, technology, and human development. Born in Cincinnati, Ohio, she graduated from the Salmon P. Chase College of Law and practiced law before founding and leading multiple mission-driven companies. She served as CEO of Bad Girl Ventures, a microfinance firm investing in female founders, and later founded Somolend, one of the first nationally available crowdfunding platforms. Through this work, Candace played a key role in shaping the JOBS Act, the legislation that made securities-based crowdfunding legal in the United States.

Over the past fifteen years, Candace has served in senior executive and C-suite roles across venture-backed startups and global payments companies, including Chief Commercial Officer of Lynx, a healthcare payments company, and Senior Vice President of Embedded Finance at FIS, a global payments firm with more than 66,000 employees.

She is also the former co-author of Typhoon Honey: The Only Way Out Is Through, a book on emotional intelligence and transformational growth.

Today, Candace leads The Liberation Company, where she facilitates emotional intelligence, somatic healing, and identity-based workshops designed to support deep personal and collective transformation. She lives on Cape Cod, Massachusetts, with her husband Andrew, their son Ivar, and their two dogs, Pan and Cinder.

Website: https://www.polyagony.com

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@candacesjogren7056

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/insidethemindofcandaceklein/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/candacesjogren/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/candace.klein/

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In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses the challenges of setting quotas for sexual frequency in relationships. She shares insights from a recent coaching call, emphasizing that focusing on frequency can often lead to feelings of obligation and resentment, particularly for lower desire partners. Instead, Jessa advises couples to create flexible, pressure-free spaces to nurture desire and intimacy naturally.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex
00:46 Welcome and Episode Overview
01:02 Discussing Reasonable Amounts of Sex
02:11 The Problem with Setting Quotas
04:05 Creating Flexibility in Intimacy
05:09 Avoiding Obligation and Duty
05:37 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
05:59 Closing Remarks and Listener Engagement
06:47 Credits and Acknowledgements

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Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast
Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast

How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com
The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com
The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com
Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com
Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

In this episode of Better Sex, host and sex therapist, Jessa Zimmerman, interviews Dr. Evan Goldstein, an expert in anal sexual wellness and author of 'Butt Seriously.' Dr. Goldstein discusses the fundamentals of anal sex for beginners, focusing on key aspects such as muscle relaxation, preparation, and safety. They delve into common myths around anal sex, the anatomical considerations, and the importance of using the right products for a pleasurable experience. The conversation also explores the performance of safe hygiene practices, effective communication with partners, and techniques to mitigate potential issues. Dr. Goldstein emphasizes the importance of proper education and preparation to enhance the anal sex experience, debunking societal taboos and misconceptions.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex
00:48 Exciting Topic: Anal Sex for Beginners
01:32 Meet Dr. Evan Goldstein
02:50 The Birth of Bespoke Surgical
03:46 Common Anal Issues and Myths
06:40 Anal Play for All Genders
08:21 Understanding Anal Anatomy
14:01 The Future Method and Anal Dilating Kit
20:45 The Importance of Uniformity in Vaginal Dilators
21:33 Jessa's Quick Break: How to Get Help
22:01 Misconceptions About Anal Preparation
22:35 Solo Anal Play: Learning Your Body
23:20 Incorporating Dilators into Sex Play
24:17 Positions for Anal Success
26:56 Choosing the Right Lube for Anal Sex
29:06 Gut Health and Anal Play
31:48 Douching: Best Practices and Misconceptions
34:59 Post-Play Hygiene Tips
36:36 Final Thoughts and Resources

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Bio:

Dr. Evan Goldstein is the leading anal health expert in the United States, founder of Future Method, and one of the few surgeons in the world whose practice, Bespoke Surgical, is dedicated to treating and restoring the human butt. He holds a perennial spot on the list of top doctors for the New York metro area and Crain’s New York Business listed him as one of their notable LGBTQ+ leaders and executives. He has been featured in national publications including GQ, Well+Good, Men’s Health, Cosmopolitan, New York Magazine, Forbes, Fast Company, Out, and Shape; is a popular podcast guest; and in demand as a speaker for both medical and sex-positive industries. His first book, Butt Seriously: The Definitive Guide to Anal Health, Pleasure, and Everything In Between published in May 2024.

www.bespokesurgical.com
www.futuremethod.com
www.buttseriously.com

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Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast
Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast

How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com
The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com
The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com
Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com
Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, hosted by sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman, the focus is on the concept of love languages and their impact on intimate relationships. Zimmerman discusses the common misunderstanding that having 'touch' as a love language equates to a need for sex, and how this misconception can create pressure and resistance in relationships. She emphasizes the importance of exploring various kinds of touch and incorporating all love languages into a satisfying sexual relationship. Listeners are encouraged to visit the podcast's website for show notes and additional episodes, and to rate and review the show on iTunes.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast
00:55 Exploring Love Languages and Touch
02:15 Misconceptions About Love Languages and Sex
02:49 Integrating Love Languages into Sex
03:38 Avoiding Entitlement and Pressure in Relationships
04:37 Conclusion and Listener Engagement

Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water.

More info and resources:

Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast
Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast

How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com
The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com
The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com
Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com
Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, hosted by sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman, guest Joan Price discusses her book 'Sex After Grief.' Joan shares her personal journey of rekindling her sexual life after the loss of her beloved Robert. She emphasizes the unique timeline every individual experiences in returning to sexual pleasure post-grief and addresses common challenges, such as the misconception of betraying a lost partner, societal judgments, and the importance of clear communication with new partners. Joan also highlights various strategies for rediscovering sexuality, including erotic massage and finding a 'pilot light lover.' She offers actionable advice and sample scripts for coping with external pressures and finding supportive communities. The episode aims to provide valuable insights and hope for those navigating their sexuality after loss.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast
00:47 Welcoming Joan Price: Sex and Aging
02:05 Sex After Grief: Joan's Journey
03:32 Navigating Sexuality After Loss
06:38 Challenges and Misconceptions
11:21 Reconnecting with Sexuality
16:00 Online Dating and Finding Connection
19:25 Navigating Conversations About Future Relationships
21:01 Recognizing Readiness for New Relationships
22:58 Handling External Opinions and Advice
25:14 Addressing Sexuality in Grief Support Groups
28:43 The Role of Erotic Massage in Healing
31:15 Reconnecting with Past Lovers
34:39 Promoting the Book and Final Thoughts

Bio:

Joan Price calls herself an advocate for ageless sexuality. She has been called other things by the media: “senior sexpert,” “the woman leading a sex revolution for seniors,” and—her favorite—“wrinkly sex kitten.” Joan is the author of four books about sexuality, including the award-winning and newly updated Sex after Grief: Navigating Your Sexuality after Losing Your Beloved and Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex, recently chosen by the New York Times as one of the eight best books about sex. An internationally popular public speaker and sex educator, Joan, now 82, has been writing and speaking about senior sex since 2005. Find Joan’s books, tips, webinars, and blog—including her sex toy reviews from a senior perspective!—at https://joanprice.com/. In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, hosted by sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman, guest Joan Price discusses her book 'Sex After Grief.' Joan shares her personal journey of rekindling her sexual life after the loss of her beloved Robert. She emphasizes the unique timeline every individual experiences in returning to sexual pleasure post-grief and addresses common challenges, such as the misconception of betraying a lost partner, societal judgments, and the importance of clear communication with new partners. Joan also highlights various strategies for rediscovering sexuality, including erotic massage and finding a 'pilot light lover.' She offers actionable advice and sample scripts for coping with external pressures and finding supportive communities. The episode aims to provide valuable insights and hope for those navigating their sexuality after loss.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast
00:47 Welcoming Joan Price: Sex and Aging
02:05 Sex After Grief: Joan's Journey
03:32 Navigating Sexuality After Loss
06:38 Challenges and Misconceptions
11:21 Reconnecting with Sexuality
16:00 Online Dating and Finding Connection
19:25 Navigating Conversations About Future Relationships
21:01 Recognizing Readiness for New Relationships
22:58 Handling External Opinions and Advice
25:14 Addressing Sexuality in Grief Support Groups
28:43 The Role of Erotic Massage in Healing
31:15 Reconnecting with Past Lovers
34:39 Promoting the Book and Final Thoughts

Bio:

Joan Price calls herself an advocate for ageless sexuality. She has been called other things by the media: “senior sexpert,” “the woman leading a sex revolution for seniors,” and—her favorite—“wrinkly sex kitten.” Joan is the author of four books about sexuality, including the award-winning and newly updated Sex after Grief: Navigating Your Sexuality after Losing Your Beloved and Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex, recently chosen by the New York Times as one of the eight best books about sex. An internationally popular public speaker and sex educator, Joan, now 82, has been writing and speaking about senior sex since 2005. Find Joan’s books, tips, webinars, and blog—including her sex toy reviews from a senior perspective!—at https://joanprice.com/.

Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water.

More info and resources:

Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast
Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast

How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com
The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com
The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com
Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com
Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass